Being a relationship coach is about taking a stand for transformation. It is not, as commonly believed, about making a marriage, “better” or “improving” it. In order to create a new relationship, there must be a focus on possibilities that are based on the present, not the past. When people are committed to transforming their marriage, anything is possible. As their coach there are 3 rules you must enforce to make it happen. Three Things Your Clients Should Never Say To Their Partner 1. The … [Read more...]
Archives for July 2010
Life Coach Tips: How Do You Use Serendipity?
Serendipity often plays a big role in how a life coach tips the scales toward success for a client. In a recent quote from A.Word.A.Day (http://wordsmith.org/awad), author Yahia Lababidi says “Like cars in amusement parks, our direction is often determined through collisions.” As coaches, our starting point is always to work with our clients to develop their sense of direction toward their goals. But everyone has collisions that knock them off the path they plan to pursue. Serendipity plays a … [Read more...]
Life Coaching Sex Scandals: Using The Power of Coaching For Evil vs. Good
Recently there have been some life coaching sex scandals that have come up in the news. It reminds me of a quote by John Emerich Edward Dalberg Acton (1834-1902). He wrote, “Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely. Great men are almost always bad men.” With so many life coaches out there aspiring to be great, it looks like more coaching scandals are store for the future. Life Coaching Technology Can Be Dangerously Powerful . The power to radically shift someone’s … [Read more...]
Becoming A Coach Means I Have To Do WHAT?
I never thought that becoming a coach would mean I might literally choose to walk over hot coals. This week I have the opportunity to challenge myself in that dramatic way. Walking on fire is the main event on the first day of a certain guru's coaching seminar, where thousands of people, including myself and my colleague, will participate in four life changing days in Long Beach, California. . Why would anyone do such a crazy thing? Becoming a coach involves a great deal of internal change … [Read more...]
Life Coaching Seminars: Walking on Fire Comes to Long Beach
The grand-daddy of life coaching seminars is coming to Long Beach in a few days. One of the unique aspects of this seminar is to walk over coals of fire barefoot. It is an exercise of focus and determination. In the process you literally train your own nervous system to pursue whatever it is in life that you put at stake before setting off across the hot coals. I can’t wait. Fear is Relative . I have no fear of walking over fire barefoot; I am the mother of a 2 year old boy. My daughter … [Read more...]
TV Music Metaphor For Insight Into Best Coaching Practices
As a coach, your best coaching practices require you to look deeply at the issues your clients bring you. While watching television recently, my husband’s quirky sense of humor produced a question which led me to think about how TV music is a sort of metaphor for beliefs. It was a scene in a perfectly ordinary supermarket, and suddenly there was an orchestra playing. His question–“what’s that invisible orchestra doing in a supermarket?” What does TV Music have to do with beliefs? Have you ever … [Read more...]
Tough Love for Business Success Coaching
When a client comes to you for business success coaching, assume they are ready for some tough love and are prepared to do what is necessary to make their business succeed. Often a client will come to you because his business, born out of passion for the product or service he provides, is failing. What you offer is some no-nonsense help for him to begin to run the business as a successful business needs to be run. Have the client take a step back Often in a business, particularly a service … [Read more...]
Life Coaching Business Essentials: What’s In A Name?
How important is selecting a name for your life coaching business? While you don’t want to pay thousands of dollars for business branding, you need to put in at least some thought to a name. Take a bank in a small town outside San Diego for example. It’s called “RaboBank.” Would you feel that your money is safe with a name that sounds a little too much like, “Rob-a-Bank?” You don’t want your coaching clients to have that same hesitation when they see the name of your business. Creating a … [Read more...]
The Impossible Becomes Possible With A 5 Step Coaching Strategy
In their musical version of Cinderella, Rodgers and Hammerstein talked about the workings of the law of attraction even before anyone had heard of it, but they totally ignored a coaching strategy to make Cinderella’s dreams come true! Here are their thoughts in the lyrics of the song “Impossible”: But the world is full of zanies and fools Who don’t believe in sensible rules And won’t believe what sensible people say And because these daft and dewy-eyed dopes keep building up … [Read more...]
5 Coach Neuroses To Avoid For Great Coaching Performance
Your level of coaching performance depends on numerous factors, including integrity, mindset, intention and skills. There are also many potential pitfalls you will want to avoid. Borrowing freely and translating loosely from the vocabulary of psychology, here are some coach “neuroses” you may want to keep on your radar. 3 Neuroses commonly affecting coaching performance in new coaches 1) Narcissism–I’m not talking about staring at yourself in the mirror here. I’m talking about being so worried … [Read more...]
