Ever ask yourself how to become a relationship coach?  There is a great need out there, and it’s easier than you might think.  IF you use information from the DISC or Values Assessments.

My husband and I recently went through a relationship assessment debrief.  What was most amazing was that he actually felt that the information was amazingly insightful.  Why was I so surprised? 

Well, it’s because we actually don’t always see eye to eye.  It’s not just because he’s over half a foot taller than I am.  And the assessments told us just why.  You see, he is a very high “S” and very high “C”.  In case you aren’t familiar with the DISC, it means that he is very steady.  He takes awhile to change course and only then if all the data supports that decision.  He is also a little pessimistic.  He didn’t really buy into that part, until he asked an expert.  Our six year old daughter.  She not only told him he was, but was able to give him a very good example.

Ok, before you think that I think I’m perfect…I’ll tell you about myself.  I’m a fairly high “D” and “I”.  I like to get things done (my way),  I’m very social (it takes at least 20 minutes to say goodbye at a party),  and according to the view of a high “S” and “C”…I can be a little Pollyanna.  Too optimistic?  Bah humbug!

No one ever told me how to become a relationship coach, but without those assessments it would have taken an expert at least a month’s worth of sessions to get that much insight.  And the beauty of these tools is that it is objective, clear, and insightful…and you can get the results after a 20 minute quiz.  That’s modern technology! 

But what we really gained out of the assessments and debrief was confirmation of what we already knew.  We may deal with the world in very different ways, but that also can provide quite a bit of balance.  And amazingly we have almost identical values.   The whole process was really valuable, and probably would have been really helpful if we had received it as a wedding gift instead of those champagne glasses we hardly ever use.

So if anyone ever asks you how to become a relationship coach…Now you know.

Colette Seymann

Accountability Coach, JTS Advisors