With all their secrets hidden inside of your client’s head, there are an infinite number of coaching questions that one might ask to begin a coaching relationship. But there are three magical questions that will give the coach what they need to know to begin to coach successfully.
Here They Are, Simple as 1 – 2 – 3
The first question is “Please share with me what you would normally share when you are letting someone get to know you?” The second question is “If you had a magic wand, what three things are most critical to change or improve in your life, right now?” And finally, what would you have to believe to really own that outcome, and achieve your goals?” Simple enough, but just make sure you are listening and taking notes, because your client may be lying and not even know it.
The Answer Is the Answer, True or Not
Your first assumption should be that your client’s answers to these three coaching questions are simple, straight-forward and true. But then you should double check every aspect of each question for consistency. If you find even the slightest inconsistency, jump on it. Determine the what, the why and the how of each. Ask why they see those contradictory elements as true. Then dig some more to understand why they feel that is OK. Once you have all the answers and have uncovered any inconsistencies, and why they don’t bother them, then you are ready to move on.
Responding to the Answers to the Three Magical Coaching Questions
At this point, the coach knows how their client sees them self. They also know what they are most highly motivated to change or improve in their lives, and what they need to believe to make that possible. Armed with these answers, the coach is able to crystallize goals, layout plans, determine limiting beliefs, and hold the client accountable for their commitments and to the achievement of their plans. Not bad for three simple coaching questions.
JTS Advisors Strategy and Accountability Coach