My experience with psychology in coaching is a lot different than the good ol’ days of college. Back then the psychology was all about delayed gratification. Don’t party, study. And then study some more for the entire semester. Who can hold that type of schedule without losing motivation? Now I know what was missing from orientation week.
The Psychology In Coaching For Fulfillment And Motivation
Celebrating victories is essential in the psychology of coaching for success. The two main ingredients to success are motivation and fulfillment. What is motivation? According to models of psychology in coaching, we are motivated to move away from pain and toward pleasure. Fulfillment, on the other hand, is a matter of feeling good. People who feel fulfilled most of the time are more likely to feel successful than those who don’t.
How To Party Like It’s 1999
In Prince’s hit song, “Tonight we’re going to party like it’s 1999”, he wasn’t going to wait for a major event to celebrate. Taking time on a regular basis to celebrate wins is crucial, yet too few achievers seem to stop and acknowledge their successes along the way to their goals. Over time this can lead to burn out because there isn’t any payoff for all the long and painful hours. Celebrating can be as simple as giving yourself 10 pats on the back as extravagant as going on a safari in Africa. The key is to catch yourself, and your clients, winning. Then find a meaningful reward and take a moment to reflect on why this is worth celebrating, what this success means now and in the future, and who they have become.
Even if your clients don’t understand psychology in coaching, they key is to get them to celebrate and reward themselves. Everyone understands that rewards work for children and people with any compassion would agree that it would be damaging to fail to ever reward children for their success. Why let them do it to themselves?
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Colette Seymann
JTS Advisors Designated Accountability Coach
Okay, I am going to reward myself with some ice cream today 🙂
I agree it is so important to reward yourself when you accomplish a task or goal.
Feeling good about something just reinforces do more.
Peter
Hi Collette,
For most people, motivation is “move away from pain and toward pleasure.” I would rather seek fulfillment, thank you! I am at the conclusion of a program called The Ultimate Game of Life, 90 Day Challenge and one of points covered is to regularly celebrate your wins. Quite honestly in the beginning, I had to consciously reward myself for successes and stay aware of my behaviors.
I’ve learned how to recognize my wins and celebrate. It keeps you fresh and prevents getting burned out. I like the really big rewards! The important point about celebrating your wins is truly believing that you deserve the reward! It is a direct path to personal development and when you celebrate your efforts, the experience is much sweeter and fulfilling!
Thank you,
Raena Lynn