Do you have life balance coaching clients who are out of control? They flip flop between working on fulfilling their dreams in one part of their life, only to lose sight of other areas? One of the most common patterns of this craziness is the battle between work and family life or leisure. It is the balance between getting their needs met for significance on one hand and love on the other.
The Life Balance Myth
That there is some type of balance point in your clients’ lives is a fallacy. While you can balance scales, dishes, and other physical objects; you can’t really balance someone’s life any better than a parent can be completely fair by giving each child exactly the same things. My dad had a terrible time trying to make everything fair between my sister and me. Except for the rare moments when we both wanted the Barbie camper or to go to Disneyland, we really wanted different things. Even at Disneyland we wanted to ride different rides. How do you define fair and even when the things in your clients lives all demand different types and amounts of resources?
Life Balance Coaching Is Not For Dummies
To really help your clients attain balance in their lives, you need to assess which of their four basic needs are getting met for each part of their lives. Is your client’s primary drive to feel significant? Meaning that he/she wants to feel important, unique or valuable? Or is it to get love and connection? Perhaps the primary drive is to have certainty about finances. Sometimes people are more concerned about getting some variety in their life; whether it’s from quilting with friends or bungee jumping.
When life balance coaching gets interesting is when two major needs are conflicting with each other. For example, there is often a battle between the need to feel significant in business and the need to get love and connection from the family. One way of resolving this power struggle over the needs is to help your clients focus on their contribution, rather than allowing them to fall into the trap of getting something for them. In doing so, not only can they find more balance in their lives; but you set up your clients to become the hero in their own life.
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