One of the greatest relationship coach mysteries is understanding what the other person wants.  The key is to help your clients realize what they want most is not necessarily what their partner wants.  Most relationship problems can be transformed by solving this mystery alone.

Where A Relationship Coach Is Needed Most

According to Helen Andelin, author of “Fascinating Womanhood,” women appreciate poise, talent and intellectual wit (www.FascinatingWomanhood.net).  They dress in a sophisticated manner and wear artistic make-up.   They spend $200 on a pair of shoes only their girlfriends will admire.  Many of these women completely miss the boat when it comes to what men really want.  They need a coach, not a girlfriend who will support them.

What Do Men Really Want?

Men have a different interpretation of what makes a woman beautiful.  My husband doesn’t care for make-up, and according to Andelin he is not a minority.  She says that men place more importance on smiles and a sparkle in a woman’s eyes.   Someone once told me, “There is nothing more beautiful than a woman who is happy.”  Is it because of a more girlish, sweetness of character; or is it simply because she is expressing her femininity?   If you want to experience femininity in its purest form, watch a little girl twirl in front of a mirror in a new dress.

Whether you agree with everything Helen has to say, she does make a good point.  How do you use this in as a relationship coach?  Encourage your clients to express their feminine side.  Have you ever asked your relationship coaching clients when the last time they wore a dress on a date with their husband was?  When your women clients are able to express their femininity, they allow their husbands/boyfriends to express their masculinity.  This is a sure fire way to rekindle some old sparks from the dying embers.

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Colette Seymann

JTS Advisors Bi-Designated Strategy and Accountability Coach