There are a lot of relationship coach theories and technologies, but there is one strategy that is so simple that people often won’t do it until they are desperate.  That is, when the relationship is so damaged that their only hope is that you can coach them to success.  And your clients will start seeing results in less than 10 days.  So what do they have to loose?

Most People Are In a Relationship for the Wrong Reason

That’s right.  Most people are in a relationship for the wrong reason.  They are in it to get their own needs met.  An analogy is that both people come to the table with their own bowl.  But they keep it high above their head so the other person can’t see what the contents are.  Once the relationship gets to a certain point, both people discover that the other’s bowl is empty.  Neither has anything to give.  Both go hungry, and their needs are not fulfilled.

The Relationship Coach Challenge is to Get Someone to Drink the Magic Potion

The cure is for one person to take action.  Why not both?  Most people would rather wait for the other person to take action first.  Someone has to decide to go first.  The Magic Potion is that the leader must find out what needs the other person is not currently getting met in the relationship and learn how to meet those needs for the other person.  The trick is to get them to do it without any type of expectations of reciprocation for 10 days.  After 10 days they will start seeing results, which will give them motivation to continue for 30 days.  After 30 days it will start becoming a habit, and you will support them in continuing until the 90 day mark.  By 90 days, there will be so much positive reinforcement that they can sustain this lifestyle indefinitely.

Who would sign up for this?  The key is for you as the relationship coach to get enough emotional leverage to make this potion seem palatable long enough to start seeing results.  The strategy is simple, but not easy.  But when you can make this type of difference in a couple’s life, they will feel the experience is truly priceless.

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Colette Seymann

JTS Advisors Bi-Designated Strategy and Accountability Coach