That’s right. We just don’t want no damn coaching questions. What we want is answers. What we want is coaching answers. The problem is that you just don’t get answers without questions. It’s as simple as that. Got it?!
No Answers without no Questions.
Now don’t go and over think this one, Sparky. You can make a statement, but just don’t have an answers without a questions first. The good news is that you are the Coach and you are the one who gets to ask the questions. Yes! You are the one who gets the answers that are needed because you are the one who gets to ask the questions. Fair enough?
So of all the Questions, what Are the best Coaching Questions?
The best coaching questions are the ones that your client can’t articulate, but which they have been secretly praying for someone to ask. Great! So now what can you do? Glad you asked. Here is how I discover those critical coaching questions. First, I cast a broad net. First, I ask open ended questions. By doing this I open the net wide and haul in everything and anything. Some of which is important and some of which just doesn’t make any difference at all. Then I sort through my catch, judging the value of each item by asking closed ended questions. By using this approach, I get the client to first share everything. Then I am able to sort the items and determine what, in the eyes of my client, are the most important items. Once they are able to bare their souls and layout side by side their beliefs, they can easily judge these ideas. Thus they tell you what is most important to them.
It’s all inside Your Clients Head, and You Are the One with the Key
The key of course is the ability to ask the right questions. Otherwise, it is all locked up there in your client’s head. So practice asking your coaching questions. Practice asking, and practice listening. Practice observing, as well. Your client my not answer your question in words. But “listen” at a higher level, by asking questions, upon questions, until your client trusts you and is fully in touch with their own reality and themselves. In that moment, you can ask and you will learn what it is that your client has secretly been crying out to share.
JTS Advisors Strategy and Accountability Coach