Why would a parent want someone to become a parent coach for them when they have a great relationship with their daughter? Wouldn’t life just work itself out? If only it were that easy. One of the greatest problems adolescent girls face is aggression from their peers. And while aggression in boys is usually physical, girls tend to play a more psychological game. If you want to become a life coach who takes on this challenge to help parents and their daughters, you’ll need some debriefing on the three roles girls play.

Become a Parent Coach That Can Identify the Three Roles Girls Play – First: The Queen Bee

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The first role you need to understand to become a parent coach is the girl in power. This girl leads the clique. Rosalind Wiseman refers to this girl as the “Queen Bee” in her book, Queen Bees & Wannabes. Although this girl is the leader, it doesn’t mean she is strong and secure. Although her parents may think that she is because of her social position. Unfortunately this girl rules by fear and manipulation to compensate for her low self-esteem. You may have to become a life coach for these parents before they accept that their daughter needs help.

The Second Role You Need to Understand as You Become a Life Coach is the Girl Who Wants to be in the “In” Crowd

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The second role you will need to understand to become a parent coach is the girl who wants to be with the “in” group. These girls need the group to feel secure will do whatever it takes to fit in. Even if it’s at the expense of being part of bullying a good friend. The peer pressure is amazingly powerful in adolescent girls. And again, you may have to become a life coach to the parents first to help them understand the cost that this social position demands from their daughters.

Lastly, You Must Understand the Victim Role if You Want to Become a Parent Coach

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The third role that you’ll need to understand to become a parent coach is the girl who is the victim. This is the girl who is teased, bullied and otherwise outcast from a clique. You may need to become a life coach for the parents if they were in this role as a child. You certainly don’t want the parents to pass along their own psychology, language patterns, and wounded beliefs to their daughters. This is most commonly the daughter whose parent will seek out your help.

The time to become a parent coach is early elementary school when these girls try on all these different ‘hats’. Even within the same day. As peer groups start becoming more of an influence in their lives, this hierarchy of status becomes even more apparent. As someone who decides to become a parent coach it’s important to understand that what our society often sees as normal, is really aggression. This is an area where someone who becomes a life coach who is willing to take on this challenge and start transforming lives can have an amazing impact on future generations. You’ll also need to remember that becoming a parent coach in many ways is about becoming a life coach that can transform the parents so they are able to help their children.

Colette Seymann

JTS Advisors Bi-Designated Strategy and Accountability Coach