Can relationship coaching tools be used in executive coaching? Can the skills, tools, and knowledge that a relationship coach might use also be used by an executive coach? This might sound preposterous at first glance, but when you dig a little deeper, it completely logical and understandable.
Relationship Coaching and Executive Coaching are Closer Than You think
Relationship coaching usually focuses on interpersonal relationships – between spouses, family, or friends. Executive coaching focuses on creating better leaders, managers, executives, and business owners.
But, what one thing do they have in common? It was mentioned in the paragraph above – yes, executive coaches need good interpersonal relationship skills. They must work with employees, team members, other executives, and CEOs to maximize performance and improve the bottom line.
They need to get along with many different people, from many different backgrounds and at many different levels within an organization. Their job’s success often comes down to relationships, and that is why relationship coaching tools can, and should be used by executive coaches. That is why it would be beneficial for executive coaches to take a few classes on relationship coaching.
Relationship Coaching Tools That Can be Used by Executive Coaches
- Scoring relationships. With this tool, you create a list of relationships – for an executive this could be rather length – clients, employees, other executives, etc. You have them create a score after each one based on how they feel after working with them. Create a priority list based on this score. Then determine a strategic plan to focus efforts on those lower scores (improve those relationships) or to work less with the ones on those lower scores, if possible.
- Eliminating toxic relationships. This relationship coaching tool is very similar to something sued in relationship coaching and is based off the tool above and the scores. Separate the low scores in to relationships you can eliminate and ones you can’t. In a relationship, one you can eliminate might be a friend who is a bad influence and one you can’t might be a mother-in-law. For an executive, one you can eliminate might be a client wo is particularly hard to deal with, and one you can’t eliminate might be the boss. You can develop strategies to eliminate those you can, and to improve relationships with those you can’t.
- One of the relationship coaching tools that can be used for executive coaches is the limiting beliefs tool. This is often used in life coaching, too. Here, you list a belief you have about the people who you scored low, and then try to back that belief up with evidence. Is it just something you started to believe for no reason or is there evidence to support your belief?
- Are you in a “ship” or a “relation?” A ship is where you (or the other person) is more concerned about themselves. A relation is where there is a common bond; something bonds them into a relationship. Expand on these ideas to categorize the executive’s relationships. Insight will come as each relationship is described and categorized.
Many coaching tools work across different segments of the coaching industry. Many relationship coaching tools which have been used to help clients improve relationships with a spouse, family members, or friends can also be used to help executives or managers improve interpersonal relationships in their work environments.
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Fred Philips
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