{"id":7864,"date":"2011-06-28T08:00:50","date_gmt":"2011-06-28T16:00:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/?p=7864"},"modified":"2016-08-14T11:37:39","modified_gmt":"2016-08-14T19:37:39","slug":"a-new-coach-tip-never-coach-friends-and-family","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/a-new-coach-tip-never-coach-friends-and-family\/","title":{"rendered":"A New Coach Tip: Never Coach Friends and Family"},"content":{"rendered":"

Well of course \u201cnever\u201d is a big word. But for the new coach<\/a><\/strong>, \u201cnever\u201d is a good place to start. As a coach grows in experience and also grows more than a little grey hair, well then it may be a different story. But in the beginning and for now, \u201cnever\u201d really is a very good place to start.<\/p>\n

Friends and Family Knew You \u201cBack When\u201d<\/h3>\n

The fact is \u2013 like it or not \u2013 your Aunt Josephine DID change your diapers. And your Cousin Fred DID see you cry when your vanilla ice cream fell out of your cone and onto the sidewalk. And\u2026 well you get the idea. It is very hard for the new coach<\/strong> to have the aura necessary to separate their professional persona from who they were \u201cback when\u201d.<\/p>\n

Now that Was Just TOOO Much Information<\/h3>\n

To be an effective coach, it is critical that you can help your clients come to terms with whatever it is that is holding them back. That means that as you coach them you have to help take them wherever they need to go. It means that you may need to help them uncover their long hidden past. It means that you may need to help them confront their most painful fear. Beyond your being able to deal with what comes up, it also means that your client, your sister or your mother, must feel free to open themselves up to you \u2013 and that my just be too much to ask.<\/p>\n

So what\u2019s a New Coach to Do?<\/h3>\n

The obvious answer for the new coach<\/span> is not to coach friends and family \u2013 at least for quite a while. But what if that is what must be done? First, act the part. Put on that professional persona \u2013 and that conservative suite or dress. Choose a professional venue. Don\u2019t coach friends or family in familiar surroundings. Choose a neutral location, in a professional environment. And finally, set aside your relationship and do not mix metaphors or references. If you do this, you may be able to pull it off, but don\u2019t press your luck, because you may end up with unsuccessful coaching and damaged personal relationships.<\/p>\n

By the way\u2026 you\u2019re invited to claim your FREE step-by-step \u201cLife Coach Salary Secrets<\/a><\/strong>\u201d video toolkit. Just go HERE<\/a><\/strong> now to get your Life Coach Salary Secrets<\/a>.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Dave Iuppa<\/strong><\/a>
\nJTS Advisors Strategy and Accountability Coach<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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