{"id":4372,"date":"2010-08-23T05:58:18","date_gmt":"2010-08-23T05:58:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/?p=4372"},"modified":"2016-08-12T04:43:44","modified_gmt":"2016-08-12T12:43:44","slug":"five-secrets-you-need-to-know-when-you-become-a-parenting-coach","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/five-secrets-you-need-to-know-when-you-become-a-parenting-coach\/","title":{"rendered":"Five Secrets You Need To Know When You Become A Parenting Coach"},"content":{"rendered":"

When you become a parenting coach<\/strong><\/a>, you will often hear the lament that children don\u2019t come with a handbook. Well, there are lots of parenting books available now, but they don\u2019t offer the personal support that parents want and need to deal with the challenges they face in the demanding bundles of energy that are their children.<\/p>\n

What\u2019s the biggest secret to share when you become a parenting coach?<\/h3>\n

1) When you become a parenting coach<\/strong>, clients will come to you because they want help with their \u201cproblem\u201d child or children. In most cases, however, the \u201cproblem\u201d is more likely to be the parents. Help them see that the behavior changes they are looking for in their children need to start with their own behavior and focus because, in fact, the biggest secret about successful parenting is that it\u2019s all about the parents.<\/p>\n

Other Secrets in the game of parenting<\/h3>\n

2) Parents need to know that loving their child beyond all reason is not enough. As a coach you provide the insight that the parental mindset about love has to include respectful and consistent discipline. It isn\u2019t about giving in to all the wishes and desires of their children (whether parents can afford it or not), it\u2019s about helping them understand how to behave in the world in acceptable ways.<\/p>\n

3) Become a parenting coach<\/span> who instills confidence. No one does everything \u201cright\u201d all the time. Parents will be better at their job if they stop second guessing themselves. With few exceptions, they are doing their best and they need to know they don\u2019t have to be perfect.<\/p>\n

4) Parents should have reasonable expectations. A two year old is not likely to be a tidy eater no matter how much her mother scolds; a thirteen year old is going to want to keep her diary private; siblings aren\u2019t going to \u201cplay nicely\u201d all the time. When you become a parenting coach<\/strong>, helping parents to understand what is reasonable will go a long way toward improving parenting skills.<\/p>\n

5) Not knowing how to handle anger towards their children might be the reason you have parenting clients. If a very young child is causing the anger, coach the client to understand that his anger is more about his own unreasonable expectations than any fault in the child, and visualize the potential consequences of inappropriate anger. If the child is older, offer alternative ways to handle intense anger. These include using \u201cI\u201d statements like \u201cI see\u201d or \u201cI feel\u201d followed by a description of what the child needs to do, instead of calling the child stupid or selfish or other damaging labels. Another option is to tell the child that they will discuss it when they have both calmed down, and then to walk away. A third option is to coach your client to get into a quiet, thoughtful or quizzical state instead of a loud and angry looking one. This takes practice, but will dramatically change the outcome in an angry situation.<\/p>\n

When you become a parenting coach<\/span>,<\/strong> you become an architect of the future. The ripples of change that you begin will affect many generations to come.<\/p>\n

Special Bonus<\/strong> \u2013 Learn 3 simple ways to become a life coach with the “30-Days to Become a Coach” video toolkit<\/strong><\/em> <\/a>when you fill in the form at the top right and click the \u201cWatch The Videos Now\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/a> button. You’ll learn how to change your client’s life in 45 minutes.<\/p>\n

Dorine G Kramer
\nJTS Certified Strategy and Accountability Coach<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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