{"id":3802,"date":"2010-06-27T00:49:42","date_gmt":"2010-06-27T00:49:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/?p=3802"},"modified":"2016-08-11T22:34:28","modified_gmt":"2016-08-12T06:34:28","slug":"best-coaching-practices-the-silent-treatment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/best-coaching-practices-the-silent-treatment\/","title":{"rendered":"Best Coaching Practices\u2013The Silent Treatment"},"content":{"rendered":"
Some of the best coaching practices<\/strong><\/span><\/a> come from the realms of\u00a0 hypnosis, NLP, or other disciplines, and are routinely taught when you go through a coaching training.\u00a0 Others are more of an art, either a talent you\u2019re born with, or one which grows along with your coaching experience and your ability to connect with your client.\u00a0 Silence, and it\u2019s effective use, is definitely an art.\u00a0 Even if you are taught in coaches training that silence is useful, it can be a challenge to get past the negative connotations of \u201cthe silent treatment\u201d that we associate with angry parents or sullen teenagers, and to develop your own sense of when and how silence can benefit your client.<\/div>\n
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How Do You Use Silence in a Coaching Session?<\/h3>\n
As children, we all knew that \u201cthe silent treatment\u201d meant someone was angry or upset, while in other contexts, we also probably heard \u201csilence is golden.\u201d\u00a0 As a coach wanting to use your very best coaching practices<\/strong><\/span><\/a>, silence is definitely your friend.<\/div>\n
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Novice coaches often feel a need to fill in all the space in a session with words. When you\u2019re starting out, silence can feel scary or threatening, or maybe just wasteful.\u00a0 It can be tough to just quietly be\u00a0 present with your client, especially if you tend to be a talkative person.\u00a0 But when you have asked a question, you must keep quiet and give whatever time is necessary for your client to answer.\u00a0 Your ability to be silent, and to hold the space for whatever your client needs, is a gift, perhaps a gift that no one else in that client\u2019s life gives.\u00a0\u00a0 Silence can be exactly what\u00a0 your client needs– to think, to feel, to\u00a0 absorb, to process– whatever is going on in the session, before moving on.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Your Best Coaching Practices Include Silence at Other Times<\/h3>\n

When else do you use your best coaching practices<\/span>?\u00a0 Well, probably in all your coach-client interactions, but here\u2019s another one where silence can be\u00a0 particularly tough and absolutely critical to your success.\u00a0 That is in your complimentary or enrollment session.\u00a0 However you ask your potential client to enroll in coaching with you, ask…. and then be silent.\u00a0 Otherwise, you deprive them of the opportunity to make their own decision, and you run the risk of talking them out of enrolling before they have the opportunity to say yes.<\/p>\n

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Give this strategy a try and see for yourself that it works.\u00a0\u00a0 If you liked this coaching tip, <\/span><\/strong><\/em>leave a comment<\/span><\/strong><\/em> or use the handy bookmark buttons below to share it with others on Facebook, Twitter, Digg, etc. Thanks!<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Dorine Kramer
\nJTS Strategy and Accountability Coach<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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