{"id":27031,"date":"2021-12-08T00:10:23","date_gmt":"2021-12-08T08:10:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/?p=27031"},"modified":"2022-01-23T16:13:37","modified_gmt":"2022-01-24T00:13:37","slug":"3-beliefs-to-bring-to-your-coaching-sessions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/3-beliefs-to-bring-to-your-coaching-sessions\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Beliefs to Bring to Your Coaching Sessions"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>\u201cHow do I schedule more consults?\u201d <\/em><\/strong>my new client asked me the other day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">She has a \u2018coaching niche\u2019\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;a beautiful website\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;and a program to help her clients.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">She has invested <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">thousands of dollars<\/span> into her business.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But she was <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">lacking in 3 crucial elements<\/span> that could help her get more consults\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;and also help her enroll clients into her coaching programs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In fact, these \u201c3 Musketeers\u201d come together to <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">empower your entire coaching sales process<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full is-style-default\"><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/3-musketeer-final.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"779\" height=\"346\" src=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/3-musketeer-final.jpg\" alt=\"Three Musketeers\" class=\"wp-image-27032\" srcset=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/3-musketeer-final.jpg 779w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/3-musketeer-final-300x133.jpg 300w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/3-musketeer-final-768x341.jpg 768w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/3-musketeer-final-640x284.jpg 640w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 779px) 100vw, 779px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>Who are they?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong><em>Belief in <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Coaching<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/li><li><strong><em>Belief in <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Yourself<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/li><li><strong><em>Belief in <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Your Client<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>\u201cBut I already have those!\u201d (My client argued after I shared this with her.)<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>\u201cOf course you do\u2026 which is <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">why you\u2019ve made it to this point<\/span>,\u201d I explained.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>\u201cAnd to <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">make it to the next level<\/span>\u2026<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>&#8230;you\u2019ll <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">need more belief<\/span>.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>\u201cBecause the coaching game gets MORE intense as you expand your reach.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large is-style-default\"><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/3-belief-model-logo.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/3-belief-model-logo-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"Triangle of Coaching Values\" class=\"wp-image-27033\" srcset=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/3-belief-model-logo-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/3-belief-model-logo-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/3-belief-model-logo-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/3-belief-model-logo-1536x864.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/3-belief-model-logo-640x360.jpg 640w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/3-belief-model-logo.jpg 1920w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I went on to explain to her how <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">every part of the coach marketing process<\/span> is heavily <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">impacted by these beliefs<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Your Beliefs Permeate Your Marketing And Enrollment Process<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">People have a <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">sixth sense about communications<\/span> in almost every form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And, since your <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">communication is just a function of your beliefs<\/span>&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;people can <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">tell what you believe<\/span> as well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>That interaction between <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">people and your beliefs<\/span> will create (or destroy) attraction before and during a discovery session.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your belief is also apparent\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;when you post on social media, or write emails.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your belief affects <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">every stage<\/span> of your sales process.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Here\u2019s what I told her to do:<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>\u201cCreate a <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">journal<\/span> so you can <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">develop your beliefs<\/span> over time\u2026<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>&#8230;to reference before and after coaching calls\u2026<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>&#8230;and to identify <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">growth opportunities<\/span> in your beliefs.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I told her to \u201cwrite through\u201d her beliefs about each element in that journal:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p><strong>Coaching is 100% FOR YOUR CLIENT.<\/strong>&#8220;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Belief in Coaching:<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/sell-coaching-without-coercion\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>Belief in coaching<\/strong><\/a> is the basis for both belief in yourself and belief in your client&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;because both you and your client <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">are working within the context of coaching<\/span> (at least, during your coaching relationship).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you don\u2019t believe in coaching&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;you won\u2019t believe in either yourself or your client\u2019s possibilities (at least not in the context of coaching).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The good news is that <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">you already believe in coaching<\/span>. You wouldn\u2019t be reading these words if you didn\u2019t believe in coaching at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>But you\u2019ll likely need to <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/sell-coaching-without-coercion\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>build this belief even more<\/strong><\/a><strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">How?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Read testimonials written by other coaches and clients.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Watch examples<\/span> of how coaching helps people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Take notes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Memorize methods.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/sell-coaching-without-coercion\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>Belief in coaching<\/strong><\/a> is the basis for both belief in yourself and belief in your client&#8230;because both you and your client <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">are working within the context of coaching<\/span> (at least, during your coaching relationship).&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Write about your own journey. Ask yourself questions like:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong><em>\u201cWhat was my life like <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">before<\/span> I began my coaching journey? Where am I now? <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">How did coaching help me<\/span> get to where I am now?\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/li><li><strong><em>\u201cWho have I <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">already helped through coaching<\/span>?\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/li><li><strong><em>\u201cIn what ways has coaching helped them?\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I cover more about how I cultivated my own belief in coaching <a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/sell-coaching-without-coercion\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>HERE<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Belief in Yourself:<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is often the <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">most difficult<\/span> belief to master.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Why?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Because believing in yourself <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">risks failure, disappointment, and rejection<\/span>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>You risk failure<\/strong> by <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">attempting new things<\/span> because you believe in yourself\u2026 Failure is bound to happen when you try something new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>You risk disappointments<\/strong> from the \u2018blue sky\u2019 expectations that self-belief brings out\u2026 Those <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">high expectations are liable to provoke a few disappointments<\/span> here and there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What about the rejection?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>You\u2019ll risk a few rejections<\/strong> coming from others that <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">don\u2019t believe in you the same way<\/span> you believe in yourself. Just because you believe in yourself doesn\u2019t mean that others around you always will.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belief in yourself will probably suffer until you start seeing your clients achieve breakthrough results on a regular basis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When your clients are struggling, <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">you\u2019ll likely blame yourself<\/span>\u2026 but that\u2019s not going to help anyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What&#8217;s worse?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>When you\u2019re <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">deeply in doubt<\/span>, you may not be willing to work on your self belief at all.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You might not feel <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">strong enough<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It might be <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">too painful<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you find yourself hitting that wall\u2026 <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">fall back on your belief in coaching<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When I first started coaching\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I was <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">wracked with fear<\/span> over my discovery sessions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So, I asked my coach what to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>I <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">\u2018borrowed\u2019 his belief<\/span> in coaching.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And even though <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">my belief in MYSELF (MY coaching) was weak<\/span>\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;I focused on my belief that <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">coaching would help my potential client<\/span> to succeed\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;with or without me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But once you\u2019re ready to deal with yourself\u2026<strong> How do you strengthen your BELIEF in yourself?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Practice<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Practice<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Practice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">After each coaching session, <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">ask yourself what went well<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Don\u2019t skip this crucial step, because <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">you\u2019ll need it to encourage yourself<\/span> before the next step\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;which is to <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">identify 1 thing that could be improved, and then work on that one thing<\/span>. (NOTE: Don\u2019t overwhelm yourself with more than 1 actionable \u2018work in progress\u2019 at a time.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Belief in Your Client:<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is the most pivotal belief of all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Coaching is <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">not about you<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">At the deepest level, coaching isn\u2019t even about a particular approach or method or process.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Coaching is ALL ABOUT YOUR CLIENT.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Coaching is 100% FOR YOUR CLIENT.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">can\u2019t believe in your client<\/span>, no matter the reason\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;you\u2019re automatically <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">DISQUALIFIED from coaching them<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Very seldom (if ever) does coaching DAMAGE a client.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But THIS is where you WILL CAUSE DAMAGE\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">not believing in your client<\/span> is the <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">most damaging thing in coaching<\/span>, and it could very easily overflow into your client\u2019s life, mindset, and results.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>&#8220;But, Colette, I have clients that are totally wrong about things&#8230; I can&#8217;t just &#8216;believe&#8217; them, right?&#8221;<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Yes, you can. Because&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Believing in your client <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">doesn\u2019t mean you have to AGREE with them<\/span>.<\/li><li>Believing in your client <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">doesn\u2019t even mean you have to approve<\/span> of your client\u2019s plan.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Believing in your client just means <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">listening to them through the lens of possibility<\/span>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What\u2019s the \u201clens of possibility\u201d?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>When you see your client, do you <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">see what\u2019s possible<\/span>? (or only limitations and problems?)<\/li><li>When your client tells you about their goals and dreams, do you <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">hear those goals as possible<\/span>? (or only why they can\u2019t or won\u2019t make it through?)<\/li><li>When your client tells you their plan to achieve their goal, do you <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">know that they have all the tools they need to get there<\/span>? (or do you predict utter failure due to lack of what it takes?)<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belief in your client isn\u2019t rocket science! It\u2019s actually pretty simple\u2026 but RARE.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Many people <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">won\u2019t bother to believe in your client<\/span>\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;and THAT\u2019S <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">one big reason why you\u2019re rare and valuable<\/span> to them as their coach.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">BOTTOM LINE: Believe in your client or DON&#8217;T COACH THEM.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-media-text alignwide has-media-on-the-right is-stacked-on-mobile\" style=\"grid-template-columns:auto 48%\"><figure class=\"wp-block-media-text__media\"><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/qs-free-video-2021\/\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"500\" src=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/QS-VIDEO-COURSE.jpg\" alt=\"How to Build a Profitable Coaching Business in 30 Days VIDEO COURSE\" class=\"wp-image-25019 size-full\" srcset=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/QS-VIDEO-COURSE.jpg 800w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/QS-VIDEO-COURSE-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/QS-VIDEO-COURSE-768x480.jpg 768w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/QS-VIDEO-COURSE-640x400.jpg 640w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><div class=\"wp-block-media-text__content\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>(NOTE: If you\u2019ve been waiting to start your coaching business, or were wondering if you can do it profitably, then you need to <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/qs-free-video-2021\/\">watch this video<\/a><\/strong>. In the video, I\u2019ll explain how to <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/qs-free-video-2021\/\">How to Build a Profitable Coaching Business&nbsp;in 30 Days<\/a><\/strong>. <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/qs-free-video-2021\/\">Click HERE now<\/a><\/strong> to <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/qs-free-video-2021\/\">watch the video<\/a><\/strong>.)<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Does all this \u2018believing\u2019 sound hard?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Labor intensive?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That\u2019s because IT WILL BE some of the time&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;but what are the alternatives?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>What happens if you don\u2019t <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">believe in the power of coaching<\/span>?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You won\u2019t even try.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You won\u2019t study.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You won\u2019t make progress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You will <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">do less and less in your coaching practice<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And eventually you will quit\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>What happens if you don\u2019t <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">believe in yourself<\/span>?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You\u2019ll be <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">nervous or afraid<\/span> when you run coaching sessions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You\u2019ll <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">hesitate when it\u2019s time to enroll<\/span> your client in paid coaching.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your lack of self-belief\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>What happens if you don\u2019t <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">believe in your client<\/span>?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Most clients will be able to tell in no time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>They\u2019ll <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">feel your critique<\/span>.<\/li><li>They\u2019ll <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">hear your doubts<\/span>.<\/li><li>They\u2019ll <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">see your dismissal<\/span> of their possibility.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And, as a result\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;they <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">probably won\u2019t work with you<\/span>\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p 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