{"id":26680,"date":"2021-09-24T14:17:18","date_gmt":"2021-09-24T22:17:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/?p=26680"},"modified":"2021-09-24T14:17:20","modified_gmt":"2021-09-24T22:17:20","slug":"processing-emotions-in-your-coaching-business","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/processing-emotions-in-your-coaching-business\/","title":{"rendered":"Processing Emotions in Your Coaching Business"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>\u201cHow do I know if I\u2019m coaching right?\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;my client just asked me, riddled with doubt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Her fears were holding her back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And I realized that fear is inevitable for any coach\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;From novice to master level.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>What fear is holding you back?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Fear of not being a good enough coach?<\/li><li>Fear of giving an embarrassing webinar?<\/li><li>Fear of clients rejecting you?<\/li><li>Fear of investing in your business and having nothing to show for it?<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-media-text alignwide has-media-on-the-right is-stacked-on-mobile\" style=\"grid-template-columns:auto 48%\"><figure class=\"wp-block-media-text__media\"><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/qs-free-video-2021\/\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"500\" src=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/QS-VIDEO-COURSE.jpg\" alt=\"How to Build a Profitable Coaching Business in 30 Days VIDEO COURSE\" class=\"wp-image-25019 size-full\" srcset=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/QS-VIDEO-COURSE.jpg 800w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/QS-VIDEO-COURSE-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/QS-VIDEO-COURSE-768x480.jpg 768w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/QS-VIDEO-COURSE-640x400.jpg 640w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><div class=\"wp-block-media-text__content\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>(NOTE: If you\u2019ve been waiting to start your coaching business, or were wondering if you can do it profitably, then you need to <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/qs-free-video-2021\/\">watch this video<\/a><\/strong>. In the video, I\u2019ll explain how to <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/qs-free-video-2021\/\">How to Build a Profitable Coaching Business&nbsp;in 30 Days<\/a><\/strong>. <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/qs-free-video-2021\/\">Click HERE now<\/a><\/strong> to <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/qs-free-video-2021\/\">watch the video<\/a><\/strong>.)<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Fear protects you from the unknown.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If your brain doesn\u2019t recognize something as familiar and safe&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;it\u2019ll warn you that you are in danger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">FEAR is that danger warning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So you\u2019re bound to experience fear <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">anytime you step outside your comfort zone<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you\u2019ve never created a coaching business before\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;your brain thinks that it\u2019s dangerous\u2026 something to avoid.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;which creates fear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And you might think that you\u2019re afraid of..<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>losing money<\/li><li>being rejected<\/li><li>never achieving your business goals&#8230;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;But you\u2019re really afraid of how you\u2019ll FEEL if\/when that happens:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>the shame.<\/li><li>the guilt.<\/li><li>the overwhelm.<\/li><li>The embarrassment.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And you\u2019ll probably feel those emotions from time to time as you grow your coaching business.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>But, those emotions can never really stop you\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>&#8230;it\u2019s your fear of experiencing those emotions that stops you.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/10.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/10-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"Processing vs Hiding emotions\" class=\"wp-image-26681\" srcset=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/10-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/10-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/10-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/10-1536x864.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/10-640x360.jpg 640w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/10.jpg 1920w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What can an emotion actually do to you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It\u2019s merely a feeling in your body.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Since emotions can\u2019t really hurt you\u2026 fear doesn\u2019t have to protect you.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>\u201cSo, wait\u2026 Colette, you\u2019re saying I don\u2019t need to be afraid of asking my client for the money?\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>&#8220;&#8230;or making that big investment?&#8221;<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>&#8220;&#8230;or quitting my day job??&#8221;<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That\u2019s right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Fear doesn\u2019t have to protect you from your emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>Fear doesn\u2019t have to protect you from your emotions.&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>\u201cSo what do you do instead of being afraid of those emotions?\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">FEEL THEM.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What happens when you allow yourself to feel those feelings\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;instead of hiding from them?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It\u2019s NOT easy&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Last summer I watched my dear high school friend slowly die from cancer.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There were a lot of emotions to process&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;like fear, guilt, and sadness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As I lay in bed one evening\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;surrounded by a pile of used tissues\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;I allowed myself to process my emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">I felt the sensations in my body<\/span>&#8230; the tightness in my stomach that felt like a big, dark, hard lump\u2026<\/li><li><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">I cleared my mind of any thoughts that would add fuel to the emotional fire<\/span>\u2026such as catastrophizing thoughts of what might happen in the future.<\/li><li><span 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This is what Grief feels like.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And as I processed these emotions\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;the intensity decreased.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;and I realized I would survive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>The benefit of processing my grief?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bringing magical moments, comfort, and peace for a dying friend.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;because I was comfortable with her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">We laughed a lot together\u2026 making jokes like silly teenagers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;and sometimes we cried.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">We were able to be truly present with each other\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;instead of hiding our emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Processing my emotions allowed me to support my friend at a time when other friends felt too uncomfortable to visit&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;because they were afraid to face their emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When you process emotions\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;instead of running from them\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;experiencing those emotions becomes less scary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>When you process emotions\u2026instead of running from them\u2026experiencing those emotions becomes less scary.&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">How do you run from your negative emotions?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>overeating or over drinking?<\/li><li>plain old procrastinating?<\/li><li>being busy with activities that don\u2019t matter?<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Whatever your pattern&#8230; it\u2019s not serving you&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But you can change it with some courage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When you know you can process any emotion\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;and survive&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;you\u2019ll develop the self confidence that allows you to take massive action toward your goals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Because you will know that even if you experience failure\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;or shame\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;or overwhelm\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You can handle it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What would you achieve if you knew that whatever happened\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;you would not only survive\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;but grow more confident?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Because if you want the rainbow\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;then you&#8217;ll soon go through the storm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Colette &#8220;Feeling it&#8221; 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