{"id":26670,"date":"2021-09-22T20:36:21","date_gmt":"2021-09-23T04:36:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/?p=26670"},"modified":"2021-09-22T20:36:24","modified_gmt":"2021-09-23T04:36:24","slug":"the-value-of-selfishness-in-coaching","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/the-value-of-selfishness-in-coaching\/","title":{"rendered":"The Value of Selfishness in Coaching"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Has anyone ever told you that you were \u201chigh maintenance\u201d?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The first time someone told me that, <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">I got defensive<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>\u201cNot me!\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>\u201cI don\u2019t get weekly manicures\u2026\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>\u201c&#8230;I barely wear make-up\u2026\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>\u201c&#8230;and I don\u2019t shop at Chanel.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/From-Low-Maintenance-to-High-Value.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/From-Low-Maintenance-to-High-Value-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"Young adult ringing a bell\" class=\"wp-image-26671\" srcset=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/From-Low-Maintenance-to-High-Value-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/From-Low-Maintenance-to-High-Value-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/From-Low-Maintenance-to-High-Value-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/From-Low-Maintenance-to-High-Value-1536x864.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/From-Low-Maintenance-to-High-Value-640x360.jpg 640w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/From-Low-Maintenance-to-High-Value.jpg 1920w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Looking back at that defensive version of myself makes me realize\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;I did everything to <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">prove to the world that I was the opposite<\/span> of high maintenance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;I tried soooo hard to be easy-going and low maintenance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But that eventually turned into being everyone\u2019s \u2018servant\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I found myself <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">doing everything for others before I took care of myself<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Deep down\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>&#8230;I resented it.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Being high maintenance is a big taboo for the coaching profession.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Don\u2019t you coach to help and serve your clients?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Most coaches <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">feel they need to be generous and selfless<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">SELFLESSNESS is rewarded<\/span> in our profession.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>But that suggests a <\/strong><strong>SELFISH COACH might be punished<\/strong><strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In fact, society has a litany of labels <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">for people that take care of themselves<\/span>\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Selfish<\/li><li>Takers<\/li><li>Arrogant<\/li><li>Egocentric<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So coaches who want to be helpful\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;often feel guilty when they try to take care of themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So they try to put everyone else first&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;at their own expense.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>But that selflessness doesn\u2019t just cost YOU&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>&#8230;it\u2019s <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">at the expense of those around you<\/span>, too\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;and ultimately <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">hurts clients<\/span> you want to serve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What if \u201cselfish coaches\u201d could still serve their clients?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What if \u201cselfish coaches\u201d could still serve the greater good?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-media-text alignwide has-media-on-the-right is-stacked-on-mobile\" style=\"grid-template-columns:auto 48%\"><figure class=\"wp-block-media-text__media\"><a href=\"https:\/\/quickstartcoachingcode.com\/webinar\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"500\" src=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/Resources-Start-Coaching-In-30-Days-2-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-25564 size-full\" srcset=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/Resources-Start-Coaching-In-30-Days-2-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/Resources-Start-Coaching-In-30-Days-2-1-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/Resources-Start-Coaching-In-30-Days-2-1-768x480.jpg 768w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/Resources-Start-Coaching-In-30-Days-2-1-640x400.jpg 640w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><div class=\"wp-block-media-text__content\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>(NOTE: If you want to learn how to start your own coaching business, then <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/quickstartcoachingcode.com\/webinar\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">check out this webinar<\/a><\/strong>, called <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/quickstartcoachingcode.com\/webinar\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">&#8220;How to Start Your Coaching Business in 30 Days<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/quickstartcoachingcode.com\/webinar\">&#8220;<\/a><\/strong> \u00a0During the webinar, I\u2019ll cover how to get your first paid clients fast and make it feel natural for you. <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/quickstartcoachingcode.com\/webinar\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Click HERE now<\/a><\/strong> to <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/quickstartcoachingcode.com\/webinar\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">attend the webinar<\/a><\/strong>.)<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Can you be a selfish coach and still make a huge impact?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Yes\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;AND it\u2019s essential to your success.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">How?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Fulfilling your own desires <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">requires you to raise your standards<\/span>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And, by raising your own standard\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;you create the opportunity for your clients to raise THEIR standards.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you demand more for yourself\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;you give <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">permission for your clients to go after their dreams<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>If you demand more for yourself\u2026you give <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">permission for your clients to go after their dreams<\/span>.&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you give more to yourself&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;then <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">you have more to give<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Getting an extra hour of sleep\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;improves what you can give the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Making more money\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;expands your resource base from which to contribute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But, if your self-care levels are low\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;you won\u2019t have much to give to your clients.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Plus, you won\u2019t WANT to give, either.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It\u2019s <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">hard to be motivated<\/span> when there\u2019s <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">nothing in it for you<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Think about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If all your needs are met\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;you\u2019ll be driven to contribute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;and you\u2019ll be driven to grow even more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Not from a place of <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">trying to prove that you are worthy<\/span>\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;but <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">because you know you have value<\/span>\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;and <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">because you have the resources to do it<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Here\u2019s how to become a \u201cHigh Value\u201d Coach through a little \u201cHigh Maintenance\u201d:<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>SELF-BELIEF<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Believe in <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">your own value<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>Believe in <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">your own value<\/span>.&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Not for what you do\u2026 but because <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">you have value by just being human<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Cinderella believed that she belonged at the ball BEFORE the fairy godmother transformed her outfit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>SELF-FOCUS<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Take time to <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">take care of yourself<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pamper yourself so you look and feel your best. This includes<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>eating properly<\/li><li>sleeping<\/li><li>exercising<\/li><li>taking care of your health<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>SELF-FEELING<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Take time to <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">take care of your spiritual and emotional needs<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Do things that make you feel good, and <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">stop tolerating<\/span> things that consistently <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">make you feel lousy<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>SELF-ACTUALIZE<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Commit to <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">achieving some selfish things<\/span> as a part of your self-actualization.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Actualized coaches <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">become role models for their clients<\/span>\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;to follow in their footsteps.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">WARNING: Don\u2019t become a slave to self-care rituals. While self-care is essential, make sure you don\u2019t turn it into another chore. Choose your moments carefully.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/5.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/5-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"Low or high maintenance coach\" class=\"wp-image-26672\" srcset=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/5-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/5-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/5-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/5-1536x864.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/5-640x360.jpg 640w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/5.jpg 1920w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>The <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">benefits<\/span> of being a <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">more selfish, high-maintenance<\/span> coach?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>You become more valuable to others.<\/li><li>You feel happy and ready to help.<\/li><li>You have more to give.<\/li><li>You become a role model.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>The costs of being too much of a <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">selfless, low-maintenance coach<\/span>?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Resenting other people<\/li><li>Feeling broken inside<\/li><li>Being a warning of what NOT to do<\/li><li>Feeling emotionally exhausted<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>So, call me \u201cselfish\u201d.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Call me \u201cHigh maintenance\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I don\u2019t care.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Because in my script\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>&#8230;high maintenance is <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">required for high value<\/span>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You are unique\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;one of a kind\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;and precious.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Make sure you treat yourself as you would a high-end car.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You\u2019re a <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">finely tuned machine that requires precision care<\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Stop <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">waiting for others to tell you that you\u2019re valuable<\/span> enough for some TLC\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Stop hoping for <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">a \u2018volunteer\u2019 to take care of you<\/span>\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>YOU take care of YOU.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Get the tune up you need and deserve\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;and THEN lead your clients to get what THEY deserve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Colette &#8220;Selfish Coach&#8221; Coiner<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/bio-circles-jeffrey-t-sooey2.001.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/bio-circles-jeffrey-t-sooey2.001.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-26167\" width=\"209\" height=\"207\" srcset=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/bio-circles-jeffrey-t-sooey2.001.png 682w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/bio-circles-jeffrey-t-sooey2.001-300x298.png 300w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/bio-circles-jeffrey-t-sooey2.001-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/bio-circles-jeffrey-t-sooey2.001-640x635.png 640w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 209px) 100vw, 209px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/bio\/colette-seymann\/\">Dr. Colette Coiner, PCC, PT, DPT, FAAOMPT<\/a><\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-paragraph\">Associate Dean, <strong><a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/mastercoachuniversity.com\/about\/\" target=\"_blank\">Master Coach University<\/a><\/strong><br><strong><a href=\"mailto:drcolettecoiner@coachestrainingblog.com\">drcolettecoiner@coachestrainingblog.com<\/a><\/strong><br><strong>858-232-3739<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-social-links has-large-icon-size is-style-logos-only is-layout-flex wp-block-social-links-is-layout-flex\"><li class=\"wp-social-link wp-social-link-facebook wp-block-social-link\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/colette.seymann\" class=\"wp-block-social-link-anchor\"><svg width=\"24\" height=\"24\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.1\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" aria-hidden=\"true\" focusable=\"false\"><path d=\"M12 2C6.5 2 2 6.5 2 12c0 5 3.7 9.1 8.4 9.9v-7H7.9V12h2.5V9.8c0-2.5 1.5-3.9 3.8-3.9 1.1 0 2.2.2 2.2.2v2.5h-1.3c-1.2 0-1.6.8-1.6 1.6V12h2.8l-.4 2.9h-2.3v7C18.3 21.1 22 17 22 12c0-5.5-4.5-10-10-10z\"><\/path><\/svg><span class=\"wp-block-social-link-label screen-reader-text\">Facebook<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n\n<li class=\"wp-social-link wp-social-link-youtube wp-block-social-link\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/c\/MasterCoachUniversity\" class=\"wp-block-social-link-anchor\"><svg width=\"24\" height=\"24\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.1\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" aria-hidden=\"true\" focusable=\"false\"><path d=\"M21.8,8.001c0,0-0.195-1.378-0.795-1.985c-0.76-0.797-1.613-0.801-2.004-0.847c-2.799-0.202-6.997-0.202-6.997-0.202 h-0.009c0,0-4.198,0-6.997,0.202C4.608,5.216,3.756,5.22,2.995,6.016C2.395,6.623,2.2,8.001,2.2,8.001S2,9.62,2,11.238v1.517 c0,1.618,0.2,3.237,0.2,3.237s0.195,1.378,0.795,1.985c0.761,0.797,1.76,0.771,2.205,0.855c1.6,0.153,6.8,0.201,6.8,0.201 s4.203-0.006,7.001-0.209c0.391-0.047,1.243-0.051,2.004-0.847c0.6-0.607,0.795-1.985,0.795-1.985s0.2-1.618,0.2-3.237v-1.517 C22,9.62,21.8,8.001,21.8,8.001z M9.935,14.594l-0.001-5.62l5.404,2.82L9.935,14.594z\"><\/path><\/svg><span class=\"wp-block-social-link-label screen-reader-text\">YouTube<\/span><\/a><\/li><\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Has anyone ever told you that you were \u201chigh maintenance\u201d? 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