{"id":26115,"date":"2021-05-15T12:26:40","date_gmt":"2021-05-15T20:26:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/?p=26115"},"modified":"2021-05-15T12:26:42","modified_gmt":"2021-05-15T20:26:42","slug":"your-coaching-business-dreams-are-being-stolen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/your-coaching-business-dreams-are-being-stolen\/","title":{"rendered":"Your Coaching Business Dreams Are Being Stolen\u2026 Here\u2019s How"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Have you ever overestimated how much you can accomplish in a day?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…or a weekend?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re an overachiever like me…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…you completely over estimate how much you can accomplish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Only half of it gets done….<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…and at the end of the day you\u2019re exhausted and drained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…and you feel like there is never enough time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I used to resent my family\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…because I was working while they were having fun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(As if I didn\u2019t have a choice.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But then I learned this awesome hack.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You tend to overestimate what you\u2019ll accomplish in the short term<\/em>\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…and underestimate what you\u2019ll accomplish in the long term<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I call this pattern \u2018the dream stealer\u2019.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

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The Dream Stealer Pattern<\/sub><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Most coaches are actually \u2018blue sky\u2019 thinkers when it comes to long term possibilities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So a coach will get super excited about what\u2019s possible<\/em>…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, when your high expectations for short term progress are not met<\/em>\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s natural to feel disappointed<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re feeling constant disappointment, reaching your goal starts to feel impossible.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Even logically…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…because when you constantly miss on your short term expectations<\/em>\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…you\u2019ll think the long term goal is unlikely at best<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019ll lose confidence…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…and you\u2019ll want to quit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you want to let the \u2018dream stealer\u2019 win?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

NO??<\/p>\n\n\n\n

OK, then here\u2019s the fix:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Managing your brain is crucial to recovering your vision from the \u2018dream stealer\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You need to organize your short term expectations this way:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. Write a thorough list of everything that you want to get done.<\/strong> Take your time, keep writing until everything is listed.<\/li>
  2. Schedule time on your calendar for sleep, self care, and fun.<\/strong> (Do this step first! Otherwise you\u2019ll cheat.)<\/li>
  3. Schedule the most important actions from your \u2018get done\u2019 list in time blocks<\/strong> on your calendar.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    And this last step is a doozy\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    You won\u2019t have room in your schedule for all the items you want to accomplish.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    Leave these remaining items off your calendar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    And that part is where your subconscious mind is going to freak out<\/em>\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    At least when you first try this…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    …because you\u2019re suddenly lowering your expectations for the short term<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    But don\u2019t let yourself feel like you\u2019re not \u2018getting it all done\u2019…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    …because anything that doesn\u2019t fit in your short term calendar can be delegated or done later.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    This forces you to focus on the things that matter…<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    And this is the end of the excuse, \u201cI don\u2019t have time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Because you will suddenly see that there is time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    (for the things that matter the most)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    BOTTOM LINE = If you want to achieve your coaching business goals\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    …some stuff just won\u2019t fit.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    (for now)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    This requires constraint<\/em>\u2026<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    …which \u2018blue sky\u2019 thinking coaches don\u2019t like.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Coaches want it all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    And so they love to dream, talk, connect, and brainstorm\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    But this is all imaginary…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Just because you can do ANYTHING doesn\u2019t mean you have to do EVERYTHING.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    And if you want to actually REALIZE those dreamy coach thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    You\u2019ve got to whittle your \u2018blue sky\u2019 ideas down to ONE THING AT A TIME.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    Which requires letting go<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    And focus<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    And you probably won\u2019t like that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    But you\u2019ll love the RESULT in the long term.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    And that\u2019s the cost of success in your coaching business.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    It will require that you manage your mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Colette \u201cBlue Sky\u201d Coiner<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    Dr. Colette Coiner, PCC, PT, DPT, FAAOMPT<\/a><\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Associate Dean, Master Coach University<\/a><\/strong>
    drcolettecoiner@coachestrainingblog.com<\/a><\/strong>
    858-232-3739<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n