{"id":26101,"date":"2021-05-08T22:19:01","date_gmt":"2021-05-09T06:19:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/?p=26101"},"modified":"2021-05-08T22:19:03","modified_gmt":"2021-05-09T06:19:03","slug":"failed-25-times-then-this-happened-to-my-coaching-business","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/failed-25-times-then-this-happened-to-my-coaching-business\/","title":{"rendered":"I Failed 25 Times\u2026 And Then This Happened to my Coaching Business"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I fail ALL the time\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Last month I spent an hour making a video, and my mic was off the whole time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Several hours of shooting later, I still hadn\u2019t captured a decent video.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">All that work&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;and nothing to show for it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I used to beat myself up after things like that\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;and I wouldn\u2019t even want to try again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Have you ever felt like quitting after a failure?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you haven\u2019t achieved your coaching business goals yet&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It\u2019s probably got something to do with FAILURE.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Fear of failure<\/li><li>Quitting after failure<\/li><li>Emotions about failure<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But what if you decided ahead of time that it was OK to fail?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Creating a coaching business is <\/strong><strong>like a marathon, not a sprint<\/strong><strong>.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A sprint is so fast\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;that if you stumble&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;it\u2019s over.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You lose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/83446578_s.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"848\" height=\"565\" src=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/83446578_s.jpg\" alt=\"stumble during a sprint and lose\" class=\"wp-image-26102\" srcset=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/83446578_s.jpg 848w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/83446578_s-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/83446578_s-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/83446578_s-640x426.jpg 640w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 848px) 100vw, 848px\" \/><\/a><figcaption><sub>stumble during a sprint and lose<\/sub><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But a marathon\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;Is all about finishing despite the challenges along the way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What\u2019s ironic?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>I\u2019m a hypocrite about marathons myself.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I\u2019ve never run a marathon, because my rule is\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;that I have to win the whole marathon to run in it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I fail ahead of time\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;because I never sign up\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;even though I\u2019ve been running for over 40 years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But I still admire the runners who keep going through blisters and pain for the entire 26.2 miles\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;even if it takes 7 hours or more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;even though their faces grimace in pain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Their hair is a mess&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;and their clothes are sweaty and stinky.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Some people might see them as failures&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>They failed to place.<\/li><li>They failed to run in record time.<\/li><li>They failed to win their age category.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They failed in all these ways\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>&#8230;but finishing is their version of success.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And that\u2019s how a failure becomes a real hero.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>FINISHING.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">People stand at the sidelines and cheer for them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They finish what they started and they hold their heads high\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They have set themselves up to win their own race.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>BY FINISHING THE RACE.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>What if you had your own back when you failed?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What if you decided that you would treat yourself with love and respect\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;learn from the experience,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;try again,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;and finish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/Learn-from-Mistakes-FINAL-2.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/Learn-from-Mistakes-FINAL-2-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"when you fail, you choose the low road or the high road\" class=\"wp-image-26103\" srcset=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/Learn-from-Mistakes-FINAL-2-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/Learn-from-Mistakes-FINAL-2-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/Learn-from-Mistakes-FINAL-2-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/Learn-from-Mistakes-FINAL-2-1536x864.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/Learn-from-Mistakes-FINAL-2-640x360.jpg 640w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/Learn-from-Mistakes-FINAL-2.jpg 1920w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/a><figcaption><sub>when you fail, you choose the low road or the high road<\/sub><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Beating yourself up doesn\u2019t lead to finishing\u2026 It leads to quitting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>What if you created your own definition of success and failure?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Is failure&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Losing\u2026?<\/li><li>or quitting?<\/li><li>or beating yourself up?<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Is success\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Finishing\u2026?<\/li><li>or being the best?<\/li><li>or staying the course?<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Remember how I worked on that video for hours, with nothing to show for it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Here\u2019s how I managed my brain\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>I changed the meaning of failure.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And I had to, because part of me was so frustrated that I wanted to quit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But I decided, <strong><em>\u201cTHIS is a marathon, not a sprint\u2026\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I thought, <strong><em>\u201cI\u2019m making progress.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p><strong><em>\u201cPeople need this video and I\u2019m not going to quit on them.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p><cite>Dr. Colette Coiner<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This was the new meaning I gave to failure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Then I felt committed to the process.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There was no way I was going to quit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Things WILL go wrong for you, too.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You need to get ahead of those failures.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">How you plan to manage your thoughts and feelings will determine how you handle a failure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>So how do you preempt failure?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Here is an acronym you can use to change the meaning of failure:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>FAIL<\/strong>: <strong>F<\/strong>irst <strong>A<\/strong>ttempt <strong>I<\/strong>n <strong>L<\/strong>earning<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/lh3.googleusercontent.com\/tqECzki5Rd5XdMEo1ALZYAVx59MSJz6kQFeeq-11QyT01ormlGyvhhkaxNV3UwIZ6u3eqMnaIzlqM8ndbb3qPN3CYk-cj2M7r4u18gD1c2kA-jkMMk-RqynsYTIu53th7BpzY8nR\" alt=\"FIRST ATTEMPT IN LEARNING\"\/><figcaption><sub>FAIL: First Attempt In Learning<\/sub><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Go out and fail\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">not passively&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;as in sitting on the sofa and surfing the internet or watching TV.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But actively set out to F.A.I.L.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Take your first attempt\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;and your second.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;and your third.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">UNTIL you succeed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>I like to set a goal of 25 \u201cactive fails\u201d per quarter\u2026<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;because if I\u2019m failing that much (with my best efforts), I\u2019m doing the hard stuff that will move me toward the finish line.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I\u2019m not asking you to do that\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Because even if you only allow yourself to fail a couple of times\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230;you\u2019ll still be money ahead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Colette \u201cFast Failure\u201d Coiner<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">P.S. 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