{"id":26024,"date":"2021-04-24T22:00:43","date_gmt":"2021-04-25T06:00:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/?p=26024"},"modified":"2021-04-24T22:00:45","modified_gmt":"2021-04-25T06:00:45","slug":"coaching-hack-to-overcome-resistance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/coaching-hack-to-overcome-resistance\/","title":{"rendered":"Coaching Hack to Overcome Resistance"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

If you can get yourself to do the things you…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…resist<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…avoid<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…or put off…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…then your coaching business dreams could come true, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Recently, I bought a book about coaching (off the internet), and I was surprised to discover that it was actually all about Scientology.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I\u2019ve got nothing against any religion, belief system, or lifestyle\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But Scientology does have a reputation for being a bit of a cult.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And that got me thinking\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How do cults get so many people to do what they usually won\u2019t want to do?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"How<\/a>
How do cults overcome the natural resistance people have to doing things they\u2019re uncomfortable with?<\/sub><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m not asking you to join any cults, but hear me out\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…because I think you can learn something very powerful from cults about breaking through your own resistance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you can steal this \u2018cult best practice\u2019, and use it to get into action\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(without compromising your ethics)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…that alone could make you successful in your business.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…and you won\u2019t have to join any cults (except, maybe the CULT of making your dreams come true).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…and you could even use this to help your clients take action as well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What\u2019s this secret that cults use to break down the resistance to taking action?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

It’s all about avoiding resistance and starting out with things you want to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a lot of work that you\u2019re willing to do to achieve your goals…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But also work that you\u2019re not willing to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s normal to put off doing the hard work necessary to create new and extraordinary results in your coaching business.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And <\/strong>if you try to force yourself<\/strong> to do things you really don\u2019t want to do\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

…you\u2019ll never even get started.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cults know how to get around this little road block\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cults don\u2019t start off getting people to do unpleasant things\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(The Jonestown cult didn\u2019t ask new recruits to drink poison Kool-Aid on day one.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cults start off with an invitation to a non-threatening event or activity.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Cults<\/a>
Cults know how to ‘flatten your resistance curve’\u2026 perhaps you should do the same.<\/sub><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Scientology is known to invite people to take a course, or take a short assessment, for instance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bottom line?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A cult \u2018sucks you in\u2019 through something that <\/strong>you are already willing to do<\/strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, through gradually introducing less appealing actions…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…their members eventually lower their resistance<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…and do things they\u2019d never do otherwise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can you steal this little manipulative tool, and employ it for your own good?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Start with <\/strong>doing the things you enjoy in your business<\/strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

…and then slowly introduce small amounts of activities that you don\u2019t like to do.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

…until you get used to doing the uncomfortable activities.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why is this better than the \u2018whole hog, white-knuckle\u2019 approach?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Simple\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s about RESISTANCE.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

When you experience too much resistance, because you\u2019re forcing yourself into something you don\u2019t want to do\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…it\u2019s just too painful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…and it\u2019s no wonder you\u2019d never want to take that action again\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…so you stop trying<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…and go back to things you enjoy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"The<\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

But what if you started with something enjoyable, and then only added a little of the task you would normally avoid?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your resistance would be much lower.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And, if you\u2019re having enough fun, that resistance might disappear completely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now the way you look at that \u2018scary\u2019 or \u2018boring\u2019 activity transforms (driven by your new experience).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you make progress\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…you could actually get addicted to doing the things you used to hate!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And pretty soon you\u2019re in \u2018the cult\u2019.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Bottom line?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cults do this all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They start with very innocent requests, and progressively get their victims to do more\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Think about an activity that almost no one wants to do much of\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

RUNNING.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Instead of starting to run 4 miles right away…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What if you put your shoes on and walked for 5 minutes?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It doesn\u2019t sound like much\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…but there\u2019d be no resistance to it whatsoever.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Following through with some consistency allows you to develop trust in yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019re developing new muscles (both mental and physical).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you get stronger\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…your trust in your running ability expands,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…which creates new possibilities and opportunities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Think about an uncomfortable action you\u2019ve been avoiding in your coaching business.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

What\u2019s the smallest \u2018action bite\u2019 that you can take (to reduce or eliminate your resistance)?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What\u2019s something enjoyable that you can do before, during or after that action?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Colette “Cult Conditioning” Coiner<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dr. Colette Coiner, PCC, PT, DPT, FAAOMPT<\/a><\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Associate Dean, Master Coach University<\/a><\/strong>
drcolettecoiner@coachestrainingblog.com<\/a><\/strong>
858-232-3739<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n