{"id":2242,"date":"2009-10-05T13:00:03","date_gmt":"2009-10-05T13:00:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/?p=2242"},"modified":"2016-08-12T10:00:11","modified_gmt":"2016-08-12T18:00:11","slug":"what-you-need-to-be-a-coach-become-a-life-coach-who-walks-their-talk","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/what-you-need-to-be-a-coach-become-a-life-coach-who-walks-their-talk\/","title":{"rendered":"What You Need to Be a Coach: Become a Life Coach Who Walks Their Talk When It Comes to Relationship Coaching"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3>What You Need to Be a Coach: Three Keys to Successfully Become a Life Coach<\/h3>\n<p>How can you <strong>become a life coach<\/strong> unless you walk your own talk? Maybe your own relationships aren\u2019t great yet, but the question is you doing what you know to make them better. If you think <a title=\"what you need to be a coach\" href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/2009\/09\/become-a-life-coach-what-you-need-to-be-a-coach\/\" target=\"_self\"><strong>what you need to be a coach<\/strong><\/a> is to be perfect, you\u2019re wrong. Here are 3 keys to <a title=\"become a life coach\" href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/2009\/09\/the-fastest-way-to-become-a-life-coach-become-a-mentor-for-coaches\/\" target=\"_self\"><strong>become a life coach<\/strong><\/a> who is on the path to restoring their own relationships. <strong>What you need to be a coach<\/strong> isn\u2019t perfection, but integrity and a mindset that anything is possible.<\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">What You Need to Be a Coach<\/span>: Empathy<\/h3>\n<p>The first step to <strong>become a life coach<\/strong> who knows how to restore relationships is to empathize with the other person\u2019s feelings. You have 2 ears and only 1 mouth. Before you attempt to resolve a disagreement, make sure you see the problems from the other person\u2019s viewpoint. Focus on their feelings, not the facts. Don\u2019t try to talk people out of how they feel or offer solutions. By doing this you are saying, \u201cI value your opinion and I care about our relationship.\u201d<\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">What You Need to Be a Coach<\/span>: Own Your Part<\/h3>\n<p>The next step to <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">become a life coach<\/span> is to own what is yours, and ask the other person to forgive you. Clean up your mess before asking someone else to clean up theirs. If you don\u2019t see your own role, you might need someone to help you see your own blind spot. Someone is going to have to go first, and it might as well be you. Remember, you are the coach. If you are going to be a leader, get in the habit of going first. Don\u2019t make excuses or shift the blame, just own any part you have played in the conflict. This will disarm the other person\u2019s anger, most people react by becoming defensive.<\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">What You Need to Be a Coach<\/span>: Solve the Problem<\/h3>\n<p>Now you are in a position to <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">become a life coach<\/span> who is ready to work on the problem. Make sure you work with the other person to attack the problem, and avoid placing blame or getting defensive. Look at the problem objectively, and come from the place of being clear about what your intentions are. Be ready to compromise and make adjustments for the needs of the other person. Making peace is not about avoiding conflict or being a doormat. For the sake of the relationship you need to be honest with yourself and the other person.<\/p>\n<h3>Become a Life Coach Who Knows That Honesty Is What You Need to Be a Coach<\/h3>\n<p>Now you have what is takes to become a life coach who can handle one of the toughest challenges of all. Remember, you don\u2019t have to wait until you feel like you can brag to others about the quality of your relationships. What you need to be a coach is to be honest with yourself and others in your life, and at least master the first of these 2 steps. After that, the possibilities will start opening up.<\/p>\n<p>Colette Seymann<\/p>\n<p>JTS Advisors Designated Accountability Coach<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What You Need to Be a Coach: Three Keys to Successfully Become a Life Coach How can you become a life coach unless you walk your own talk? Maybe your own relationships aren\u2019t great yet, but the question is you doing what you know to make them better. If you think what you need to [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[8,198],"tags":[822,197],"class_list":["post-2242","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","category-become-a-life-coach","category-what-you-need-to-be-a-coach-become-a-life-coach","tag-become-a-life-coach","tag-what-you-need-to-be-a-coach","entry"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2242","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2242"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2242\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":18554,"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2242\/revisions\/18554"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2242"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2242"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2242"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}