{"id":19379,"date":"2016-09-02T20:21:47","date_gmt":"2016-09-03T04:21:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/?p=19379"},"modified":"2017-10-23T02:49:03","modified_gmt":"2017-10-23T10:49:03","slug":"nice-life-coaching-is-ineffective-life-coaching","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/nice-life-coaching-is-ineffective-life-coaching\/","title":{"rendered":"Nice Life Coaching is Ineffective Life Coaching"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>What\u2019s <a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/the-purpose-of-a-life-coaching-business\/\">nice life coaching<\/a>? Is it a life coach who is nice? Is it a life coach who helps to create nice lives for their clients? Is it a life coach who does a nice job?<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_19383\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-19383\" style=\"width: 890px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-19383\" src=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/pexels-photo-121537-large.jpeg\" alt=\"Life Coaching\" width=\"890\" height=\"593\" srcset=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/pexels-photo-121537-large.jpeg 890w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/pexels-photo-121537-large-300x200.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/pexels-photo-121537-large-768x512.jpeg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 890px) 100vw, 890px\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-19383\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Life Coaching<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<h3>Have a Nice Life<\/h3>\n<p>When someone says \u201chave a nice life\u201d it is often meant as an insult. It is a sarcastic remark which often means just the opposite. When someone breaks up with a partner, the partner might sarcastically remark\u201d have a nice life.\u201d In reality, they really are wishing them ill!<\/p>\n<h3>Are You a Nice Life Coach Who Specializes in Nice Life Coaching?<\/h3>\n<p>However, I would assume that it would be good if someone called their life coach \u201cnice.\u201d Or, if they said that their life coach \u201cdid a nice job.\u201d Or, it would be positive if they called their coach a \u201c<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>nice life coach<\/strong><\/span>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>But, do you want to be a nice coach? Are nice life coaches the best life coaches? Does being nice help you achieve results and find outcomes for your clients? Does being nice help you attain and retain clients, and reach a desired level of success? Does nice life coaching work?<\/p>\n<h3>Be Nice to Your Clients\u2026Sometimes<\/h3>\n<p>Of course you have to be nice to all clients\u2026 current, past, and potential. That\u2019s one way you get and keep clients. As a business person and a marketer, you have to be nice. It\u2019s best to be polite, charming, positive, gregarious, and honest when selling your services and discussing business. However, as a coach, being nice probably isn\u2019t one of the most important factors for success.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t need to be mean, but as a coach, you are not there to be a friend or someone who agrees with everything your client says and does. You are there to question, challenge, and demand more of your client. You are there to give them an occasional kick in the butt. You are there to make them see the behaviors that limit their success; you are there to uncover obstacles to achieving their goals and dreams. You can\u2019t do all that with nice life coaching!<\/p>\n<h3>Be a Life Coach \u2013 Not a Foe or a Friend<\/h3>\n<p>You are not going to get results if you act like your client\u2019s BFF. You\u2019re not going to get results if you act like a nagging mother. You are also not going to get results if you act like the strict prison warden. Neither friend or foe a life coach be!<\/p>\n<h3>What Relationship Does a Life Coach have with Clients?<\/h3>\n<p>To help clients achieve their goals, grow, and create action plans to help them reach their dreams, a coach has to have a dynamic and positive relationship with each client. Coaches act in various capacities when coaching clients:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>As advocates<\/li>\n<li>As guidance counselors<\/li>\n<li>As sounding boards<\/li>\n<li>As an occasional shoulder to cry on (but not too often because that would make you too much of a friend)<\/li>\n<li>As mirrors to see behavior and attitudes<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Nice life coaching is ineffective life coaching! You can certainly be a nice person and still be a life coach. You can also have a certain level of niceness in your session, but if you focus on being a <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>nice life coach<\/strong><\/span>, you will probably not be an effective life coach, and therefore, not a successful one, either!<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Give this strategy a try and see for yourself that it works. If you liked this coaching tip, leave a comment or use the handy bookmark buttons below to share it with others on Facebook, Twitter, Digg, etc. Thanks!<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/bio\/fred-phillips\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><b>Fred Philips<\/b><\/a><br \/>\nBusiness Coach<br \/>\nWriting Team, Coaches Training Blog Community<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What\u2019s nice life coaching? Is it a life coach who is nice? Is it a life coach who helps to create nice lives for their clients? Is it a life coach who does a nice job? Have a Nice Life When someone says \u201chave a nice life\u201d it is often meant as an insult. 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