{"id":1901,"date":"2009-08-03T08:00:00","date_gmt":"2009-08-03T08:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/?p=1901"},"modified":"2016-08-12T08:52:27","modified_gmt":"2016-08-12T16:52:27","slug":"relationship-coach-training-becoming-a-relationship-coach-who-can-navigate-ruined-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/relationship-coach-training-becoming-a-relationship-coach-who-can-navigate-ruined-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"Relationship Coach Training Tips: Becoming a Relationship Coach Who Can Navigate the 4 R\u2019s of Ruined Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"

requires a lot of skills and knowledge, but if you know the 4 R\u2019s of ruined relationships becoming a relationship coach<\/strong> will be a lot easier.\u00a0 Knowing these stages will not only help identify which stages are occurring in a relationship, but will help you warn clients of the next stages that will follow unless something changes.\u00a0 Running from the relationship is not usually the answer, because you take you with you.\u00a0 But sometimes a relationship coach<\/strong><\/a> can make a huge difference even when a couple is constantly in a battle or even worse, repression.\u00a0 Become a relationship coach<\/strong> who can help people understand the pattern of destruction and guide them onto a path toward intimacy. \u00a0A certain guru\u00a0refers to these as the \u201c4 R\u2019s That Ruin Relationships.\u201d<\/p>\n

Becoming a Relationship Coach Who Understands the Effects of Resistance is Key<\/h3>\n

The first stage of the R\u2019s that ruin relationships is Resistance.\u00a0 Becoming a relationship coach<\/strong> who recognizes this stage can prevent a lot of pain.\u00a0 An experienced relationship coach<\/strong> will quickly identify this stage.\u00a0 What typically happens is that someone says something or does something that you think \u2018Oh, I wish they wouldn\u2019t say or do that.\u2019\u00a0 But most people stay quiet and over months or years, the pain escalates.<\/p>\n

A Relationship Coach Who Misses the First Stage Will Eventually See Escalation<\/h3>\n

If a relationship coach<\/span> fails to identify the first stage, things escalate.\u00a0 The next stage is Resentment.\u00a0 Becoming a relationship coach<\/span> who can identify this stage is fairly simple.\u00a0 The resistance is coupled with anger to some degree, and by now that person is probably bringing up this problem to their friends, family, whoever will listen.<\/p>\n

Rejection Is Where Many Begin Becoming a Relationship Coach<\/h3>\n

If at all possible you want to avoid becoming a relationship coach<\/span> whose clients continue along this path of destruction and enter the Rejection stage.\u00a0 This is the most common stage people seek help from a relationship coach<\/span>.\u00a0 The undertone of relationship is \u2018Why did you do that to me?\u2019\u00a0 At this stage people start looking like an idiot because they react to all of the stacked incidences of the past.\u00a0 Their partner might do something very small, but with all the cumulative past pain the reaction is not appropriate for the circumstances.\u00a0 By this stage, their partner has begun the Resistance Stage and which will likely lead to resentment.<\/p>\n

A Relationship Coach May Never See the Fourth Stage<\/h3>\n

If the couple doesn\u2019t break up, the next stage is Repression.\u00a0 It\u2019s hard to sustain passion with anger in the way, and couples tend to resort to being roommates.\u00a0 They are not likely to seek a relationship coach<\/a> at this stage because by this time people have settled.\u00a0 Their spouse is their associate.\u00a0 Their passion goes into their work, sports, and friends.\u00a0 This is comfort and stability, but it certainly isn\u2019t fulfillment.\u00a0 Becoming a relationship coach for people at any of these stages is about providing strategy for people to re-create the passion and vision they once knew.<\/p>\n

Colette Seymann<\/p>\n

JTS Advisors Designated Accountability Coach<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

requires a lot of skills and knowledge, but if you know the 4 R\u2019s of ruined relationships becoming a relationship coach will be a lot easier.\u00a0 Knowing these stages will not only help identify which stages are occurring in a relationship, but will help you warn clients of the next stages that will follow unless […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[163,189],"tags":[955,978],"class_list":["post-1901","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","category-becoming-a-relationship-coach","category-relationship-coach","tag-becoming-a-relationship-coach","tag-relationship-coach","entry"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1901","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1901"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1901\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":18492,"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1901\/revisions\/18492"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1901"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1901"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1901"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}