{"id":1834,"date":"2009-07-20T13:00:44","date_gmt":"2009-07-20T13:00:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/?p=1834"},"modified":"2016-08-12T07:56:56","modified_gmt":"2016-08-12T15:56:56","slug":"career-coaching-101-career-coaching-tools-to-promote-effective-communication","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/career-coaching-101-career-coaching-tools-to-promote-effective-communication\/","title":{"rendered":"Career Coaching 101: Career Coaching Tools to Promote Effective Communication"},"content":{"rendered":"

One of the basic career coaching tools<\/a><\/strong> to master is effective communication. This skill is important for your clients, and also in your own career coaching<\/a><\/strong> practice. The biggest problem with communication is that we hear through our own filters, and often attach meaning that was never intended. The results are often disastrous to our life and career coaching<\/strong> practice. Here are some career coaching tools<\/strong> you can implement immediately to improve communication.<\/p>\n

Career Coaching Tool #1: Don\u2019t Assume Meaning<\/h3>\n

The first of the career coaching tools<\/strong> is to improve communication is to ask, \u201cWhat else could this mean?\u201d Let\u2019s face it, when we get upset it\u2019s not just about what someone said. It\u2019s also because we attach some type of meaning such as \u2018they don\u2019t care\u2019 or \u2018they\u2019re irresponsible\u2019. When you go into this state, how will you treat that person? Maybe you\u2019ve overwhelmed that person with too many requests or something else came up in that person\u2019s life that was a higher priority. The golden rule is to never assume that it\u2019s about you. But that\u2019s what we do, in our own lives and career coaching<\/strong> practices. And in that moment we stop relating to others, and they won\u2019t relate to us.<\/p>\n

Career Coaching Tool #2: Don\u2019t Take it Personally<\/h3>\n

The next of the career coaching tools<\/span> is to remember that when someone gets upset with us, it\u2019s rarely about us. Most of the time we just happen to get in the way. Even if it is about something we did intentionally or unintentionally, the other person adds meaning. In that moment that person most likely sees us as something that is going to get in the way of one or more of their basic needs getting met; such as love, significance, certainty or variety. You play a powerful role in your career coaching<\/span> practice and your personal life when you choose to take the high road and continue to listen with the intent to understand the other person.<\/p>\n

Career Coaching Tool #3: Are You Dealing With the Past or the Present<\/h3>\n

Another great career coaching tool is to identify if you are reacting to what\u2019s happening in the past or the present. Our reality is filtered through the subconscious part of our brain. Every emotional event is stored there since birth, and when something or someone really pushes your buttons, past events are recalled at the subconscious level as well. This usually just adds fuel to the fire. The first step to diffusing the intensity of our emotions is to identify where they are coming from. Are you upset because a career coaching<\/span> prospect rejected your offer, or are you upset because a more significant person from your past rejected you?<\/p>\n

The key to these career coaching tools<\/span> is for you to be elegant. If you assume the worst, even if you\u2019re right, communication breaks down. By choosing to take the high road, and help your career coaching clients do the same, you\u2019ll be able to transform most mountains into molehills.<\/p>\n

Colette Seymann<\/p>\n

JTS Advisors Designated Accountability Coach<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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