{"id":10181,"date":"2012-01-07T06:03:38","date_gmt":"2012-01-07T14:03:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/?p=10181"},"modified":"2016-08-14T20:01:40","modified_gmt":"2016-08-15T04:01:40","slug":"the-biggest-single-mistake-in-personal-coaching","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachestrainingblog.com\/becomeacoach\/the-biggest-single-mistake-in-personal-coaching\/","title":{"rendered":"The Biggest Single Mistake in Personal Coaching"},"content":{"rendered":"

In\u00a0personal coaching<\/a>,<\/strong> the single biggest mistake is to fail to really connect with our clients and understand their authentic inner hopes and fears \u2013 their very being. You could call it being a good active listener, but just that is not it, at all. It actually defies a principle of physics: how can you get close enough to really understanding something without changing it? You can\u2019t. Or can you? If you can, how can you do it? Here\u2019s how.<\/p>\n

Guide without Leading<\/h3>\n

Ask open questions that don\u2019t imply a personal bias. Right or wrong is not the point. Ask simple questions like \u201cTell me about yourself?\u201d or \u201cWhat do you think about that?\u201dor \u201cWhat would you like to have happen?\u201d And then listen, listen, listen.<\/p>\n

Understand without Judging<\/h3>\n

Open yourself to your client without judging them. Channel the force of infinite love, and help them know that you accept them at the most fundamental levels, and that you are there to help. Not to forgive them, because forgiveness is not the issue or your job. You are simply there to accept and support them.<\/p>\n

Connect beyond Hearing<\/h3>\n

Listen for the being beyond the words. But do not strain. Effortless listening. Infinite openness. For you and for the client. Openness is the key, not the questions. If they can relax and not feel the need to guard their feelings or their raw nerve endings, then they will spontaneously share their highest hopes and their deepest fears, without your asking a single question. This need to spontaneously share in a totally safe environment is one of God\u2019s greatest gifts to us. In such a place, we and our clients have an opportunity for insights that can change our lives forever.<\/p>\n

The Secret to Personal Coaching Success<\/h3>\n

The Secret to success in personal coaching<\/span> is to simply be the coach. Guide without leading. Understand without judging. Connect beyond hearing. Simply that. Nothing more. Nothing less.<\/p>\n

Hope you took some great value out of this post today! I\u2019d love to hear your feedback, so make sure you leave a comment with your thoughts or questions. And also, you can click on the Twitter button below to retweet this article\u2026Thank you!<\/a><\/strong><\/em><\/div>\n

Dave Iuppa<\/strong><\/a>
\nJTS Advisors Strategy and Accountability Coach<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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