Life coaching may not be the first recourse for someone who wants to make changes in his life, but it may be the best. People usually don’t know why they are unable to change or make progress but they tend to get stuck where they are, and stuck in their stories about why they can’t change. That’s where you come in. As a coach, you are often their best bet, not just to work through what’s stopping them but to get them into action.
3 Reasons People Don’t Change
1. Change requires someone to leave his comfort zone. He has to be willing to step into the unknown, to take a leap of faith. Life coaching offers a terrific support system for this kind of discomfort. You get to be cheerleader when he moves forward and hold him accountable when fear or complacency get in the way and his integrity slips. It’s your job to jog him out of his complacency by helping him find the motivation and the character he needs within himself to take the leap. What is he missing out on by keeping things the same? What will he miss out on in the future if he doesn’t change? How will if affect his family, his finances, his business? When you get him to feel the answers in his body, he will have the motivation he needs to take action.
2. He may simply not know how to get where he wants to go. He may have no strategy in place, or a wrong strategy. A certain guru uses the example of someone whose goal it is to see the sunrise and whose strategy is to keep looking and traveling west. Well no matter how much he wants to see the sunrise, he’s never going to with that strategy, because it’s simply wrong. As a coach, it’s your job to make sure your client’s strategy makes sense. Your life coaching skills will help him see the problems with his current strategy and figure out a better one.
3. He plays mind games with himself. He minimizes or justifies his current pain: ”it’s not so bad” or “I’m used to it.” This is a life trick we all use to help avoid pain. The problem is that without pain, there’s often little motivation to change. In your life coaching sessions, it’s up to you help him see through his mind games and find the pain.
Life Coaching Is The Solution
Life coaching is goal oriented. Unlike therapists we don’t primarily delve into the past, but rather we look at what is happening now and how to change it. Get your client to be honest with himself about the cost of not getting his goals. Help him identify a good strategy. Support him to find the inner strength he needs. And celebrate the changes in his life.
Hope you took some great value out of this post today! I’d love to hear your feedback, so make sure you leave a comment with your thoughts or questions. And also, you can click on the Twitter button below to retweet this article… Thank you!
Dorine G Kramer
JTS Advisors Strategy and Accountability Coach
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