To Become a Relationship Coach, Get Coach Training on What to do When Only One Partner Willing

How on earth are you supposed to become a relationship coach when only half of the relationship is willing to work with you? Not as tricky as you may think with a little coach training I learned from my friend Tony. Tony decided he wanted to have an aquarium. He had a stressful job and wanted to have a low maintenance pet. So he bought some equipment and a few fish.

What does this have to do with how to become a relationship coach?

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Everything.

Tony started having trouble with his peaceful environment when he brought a few new fish home. Some of the fish were picking on the others, some died. As they died, Tony replaced them with other fish. Fish he chose based on what they looked like; not their personality. Things got worse as you can imagine, until he got some coach training from a helpful pet store clerk on how to become a relationship coach for fish. He had created a very aggressive environment and needed to make some changes.

Coach Training on Changing the Environment to Produce Vast Differences

Did Tony need to enroll each fish in coaching to become a relationship coach to this “family?” Of course not. The coach training that we learned from this experience is that even making a small change can dramatically change the environment.

Now how do you apply this coach training to your practice? To become a relationship coach you need to be aware that each relationship “environment” is like that of a fish tank. If your in-laws are living with you, or you them…it’s going to effect the water. Kids? The water is going to get a little grungier and it will take more maintenance to keep the water clear.

And if one of the fish is willing to transform, the other fish will have to change or move on. The rules will have to be re-written. So to become a relationship coach, you can make a huge difference even if you are only able to give one person empowering alternatives. And who knows, once your client begins to transform…the other partner might decide to join in.

So hopefully this coach training provided some encouragement to you!  Now let’s get back out there and navigate the “waters” of becoming a relationship coach.

Colette Seymann

Accounability Coach, JTS Advisors

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Coach Training Techniques – How to use Assessments to Become a Relationship Coach

 

To become relationship coach, you will need some powerful coach training techniques. About half of marriages will end in divorce. Second and third marriages have a higher rate… Statistics show that children who live in single parent families have a higher incidence of behavioral problems, likelihood of dropping out of school, drug or alcohol abuse problems, and risk for divorcing later in life. Of those couples who stay married, how many people are happy and fulfilled? And what cost is that to the children of unhappily married parents. And who is better equipped to get results than someone who has committed to become a relationship coach and has access to cutting edge coach training techniques.

The quickest way for a relationship coach to get started, is to have both people take the DISC and Values Assessments. The problem with most relationships? People enter them because they want companionship. The old saying, opposites attract, is usually true.

Here’s are a few coach training techniques that should help you to become a relationship coach:

  • Relationship coach training technique #1. Determine compatibility by taking a look at each individuals values, and compare results between the couple. If they don’t share any of the same values, it’s a recipe for disaster. Even having similar behaviors and a strong desire to stay together for ‘whatever reason’ is not likely going to help them get through this alive (Run, don’t walk). To become a relationship coach that’s effective you’ve got to tell couples the tough things they may not want to hear. If you find a couple who shares at least one value, they will have a shot at a great relationship. If they share 2 values, they will have a higher probability.
  • Relationship coach training technique #2 – Use the assessments to help the couple understand their communication styles and preferences. Understanding this and applying strategies can make all the difference. For example, someone who is fast-paced might need to call or text their slower-paced, analytical partner to get a response, giving that person a head’s up regarding the issue and time constraints of the situation. That way the analytical person can get started a little earlier, rather than being struck by a big surprise. Understanding that your partner’s needs and giving them space to to think about things their own way creates trust and harmony in the relationship.

To become a relationship coach, you will need to provide specific ways to help your clients improve their communication. Look at behavioral traits through the assessment results and offer your clients some objectivity. Under stress, a competitive, confident, and positive person might be seen by the other person as egotistical, nervy and aggressive. Assessments can help people recognize differences that can be strengths to compliment their ‘team’, instead of weaknesses or character flaws.

  • Relationship coach training technique #3 – To become a relationship coach, you can’t be afraid to play the ‘bad guy’. If the relationship is doing poorly, and the couple seems on the fence…force the issue. Tell them,”maybe you guys should just forget it…”. This could actually put them in a position where the relationship can be stronger eventually. If they can argue this one point together, they can start working as a team. Break through taboos of staying together ‘for the kids’, and make them really look at the relationship between the two of them.

A lot of trouble comes from relationships that are just on the fence. No one is really committed to having a great relationship, but no one is committed to just calling it quits either. Why not see if they will step up to the plate and defend why they think the relationship can work in the presence of their partner? That’s powerful. They may not have heard their partner say what they value in the relationship for a long time…and it can be the beginning of re-building trust in the relationship.

These are only a few coach training techniques that can help define you as someone who is to become a relationship coach. Watch the masters to what they do and you’ll see some amazing transformation in your clients lives.

Colette Seymann

JTS Advisors Accountability Coach

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