Your relationship coach knows the tips and tricks to get your partner to get down and be more freaky deaky because if you or your partner don’t exude both bad boy and good boy or bad girl and good girl energies in your relationship, you aint going to be real excited about being in a long-term relationship with a person who can’t play both roles at least sometimes because the mystery, intrigue, and face it, balance of naughtiness and responsibility won’t be present to create the stability you want in sex and reliability, and even in your normal day-to-day challenges and interactions.

If you aint got it, you need to get it. The it is a well balanced mix of bad guy and good guy in you, and that’s what makes you interesting to your mate.

How can my relationship coach help me figure out the proper mix of light and dark energies?

You may never have heard of this concept of light and dark energies before, but it’s true a mix in the right proportions can add the flavor of life and spice to your relationship.

We usually talk about people in terms of good and bad, but in a relationship, coaches know good and bad can blur because we are playing roles to please each other or to please ourselves. The light and dark energy edge and balance is very important to maintain fulfillment on both sides of your relationship.

Light energy is about:

- Giving and serving
- Being a ’good boy’ or a ’good girl’. Think of it like a child that wants to please his/her parent.
- Innocence as well as happy, loving, nurturing attitudes
- Mature version of light energy would be responsibility and integrity

Dark energy is about:

- Mystery and seduction
- Think of ’playfulness’ in more of a naughty way
- Being the ’bad boy’ or ’bad girl’, who gets in ’trouble’
- Think of mischief, secrets, seduction, and trickery
- Selfishness and hedonism are part of the dark energy.

Relationship coaches know that male dark energy is more possessive, ravaging, predatory, and confrontive, while female dark energy is more seductive, duplicitous, and manipulative.

If you have some reason to want every one in your world to think you’re a really good, upstanding, and law abiding person, including God, then do yourself a favor. When your alone and being intimate with your partner, layoff the holier than thou image you project to everyone else and show your babe you can get frisky and risky.

On the other hand, if you’re always the bad guy, no one is going to be attracted to that for long. You’ve got to show some responsibility and let your light energy shine when it’s appropriate.

Example of light and dark energy in Hollywood.

Sandra Bullock and Jesse James are the quintessential couple who we can take a brief look at to see what’s going on with these 2 types of energy in your relationship.

Sandra Bullock:

Sandra is the light energy source. America feels and believes that this woman can do no wrong. She’s such a great mother and the roles she plays cast her in this light as well. What I’d like to know as a relationship coach from Sandra, do you ever let go of your good girl image for a moment and be the bad girl and express your dark side ever?

Jesse James:

Jesse is Hollywood’s true bad boy. Some might say he’s reckless in his behavior, but he seems to attract women like a magnet, even the good girls.

Sandra was attracted to Jesse because he had something she didn’t, and that was dark energy. It could be that Jesse actually brought dark energy out in Sandra, but we may never know because Sandra and her media team works hard to protect her good girl image.

The same can be said for why Jesse married Sandra, and that’s because he knows he needs someone in his life that leans towards being more responsible. Unfortunately, this couple didn’t have the right mix of dark and light energies to make their relationship last until death did them part.

If you are in a relationship that you’re now wondering how to capture the right mix of light and dark energy, you can hire a relationship coach to run an assessment on you and your partner and coach you through a relationship assessment to get your intimate partnership back on track with the right proportion of ebb and flow of light and dark energies.

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Donald Hunter
Certified JTS Accountability And Strategy Coach

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A relationship coach knows the truth that if you’re in a steaming, hot relationship and you’re unsure about how your relationship will turn out for you, but the only thing is you know that you’re so deeply in love and attracted to your bad boy or bad girl and it’s crazy because you don’t quite know what you should believe about your deep feelings and your partners real true intentions. It’s understandable that you feel unsure, stressed, and fearful because opposites don’t really attract in the way you think. At least not in the long-run, so let’s get a better handle on what’s real and burst the opposites attract myths bubble.

Where opposites do attract is the basis for beginning your lasting relationship, but it’s not the thing that’ll keep your relationship together when storms come and the rain beats down on your sex bond, and the wind is so strong it blows you little love making home off it’s foundation.

As your relationship coach, here’s the truth on how opposites attract.

You may call this an aura , but opposites attract only in their sexual energies. It’s called polarity – like a magnet. You have polarity when there’s masculine and feminine energies going on in your relationship. Masculine energy attracts Feminine energy, and vice-versa.

Masculine energy is about:

• Force
• Wants Freedom / Peace
• Significance / Certainty driven
• Hunter
• Centered/Solid

Feminine energy is about:

• Power
• Wants to be possessed
• Love / Variety driven
• Hunted/Pursued
• Stormy/Flowing

Just because you’re a man doesn’t mean you shouldn’t or won’t have feminine energies at times. The same is true for a woman in that they may come from a place of masculine energies, depending on their natural behavioral styles and motivational values.

The coaching question is what is your center of gravity when it comes to sexual energies?

If there is no difference in sexual energy in the relationship, then there is no passion or attraction. You can see this truth playing out in a same sex relationship because for it to work, opposite sexual energies must be present as well. You may wonder why relationships sometimes shift and the partnership loses it’s polarity why that happens. It’s because the partners move closer together in their centers of gravity in terms of their sexual energies and they lose the hot passionate polarity they once had.

In some relationships, the man wants his sweet, feminine, innocent woman to get tougher. He wants her to be more goal oriented, rise to challenge, and kick but if the situation calls for it. She listens to this crap, and over time, she sees no way out and then she shifts her center of gravity closer to her man’s masculine center. Then, the polarity passion and power slowly dissipates and the 2 partners lose the excitement in their once steaming, hot relationship.

A strong woman with masculine energies can turn her man into a girlie man through the very same process because she’s unaware of the importance of the magnetic force that opposite sexual energies create for her and her once forceful, hunter  like man.

What keeps your tantalizing relationship together?

The 3 main goals for how to make your relationship work that a relationship coach answers to help partners who strive and desire to create in their relationships include:

• Getting along better
• Working together better as a team
• Improving communications

These 3 main goals can be impacted positively and negatively by the 2 other things which are present in a relationship: natural behavioral tendencies and your values which are your emotional drivers. For simplicity sake, you can think of these 2 things as how you do things and why you’re motivated to do them. The more similar you are in these 2 very important areas, the more you’ll achieve the 3 desirous how to make a relationship work goals above. You can find out you and your partner’s natural behavioral styles and value drivers by purchasing a relationship assessment from a certified relationship assessment coach.

If you really have the hot, crazy, cool sex thing going on in your relationship, but you don’t get along or you don’t work well as a team or you face challenging communication hurdles, then seek out the priceless services of a relationship coach who can create a safe place for you and your partner to explore the relationship attractors and the relationship killers in an open and honest way. If you have been shifted off your center of gravity by your stronger partner, then get some coaching to get back to your center of gravity and put the steam and passion back into your little love machine.

Give this strategy a try and see for yourself that it works. If you liked this coaching tip, leave a comment or use the handy bookmark buttons below to share it with others on Facebook, Twitter, Digg, etc. Thanks!

Donald Hunter

Certified JTS Accountability And Strategy Coach

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Being a relationship coach is about taking a stand for transformation. It is not, as commonly believed, about making a marriage, “better” or “improving” it. In order to create a new relationship, there must be a focus on possibilities that are based on the present, not the past. When people are committed to transforming their marriage, anything is possible. As their coach there are 3 rules you must enforce to make it happen.

Three Things Your Clients Should Never Say To Their Partner

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1. The first one is, “I’m leaving.” Unless your relationship coach client has his/her bag packed and a place to move to, it is usually an idle threat. It is also one of the most damaging things to say to a partner because it demonstrates a complete lack of integrity and commitment. This is probably one of the reasons why the relationship is struggling. Help your clients realize that what they say is powerful, and in order to have the relationship they want they need to hold themselves to a higher standard.

2. The next is “I hate you” or “I don’t love you.” When people feel a threat of loss of a survival need, such as love/connection, they will either get angry or withdraw. When a partner hears this the argument may even escalate as he/she tries to regain significance. The drive for significance is really a polar opposite to love and connection, and will get the opposite effect that the partner would most likely wish for.

3. Anything that brings in the past. In order to transform their relationships, your clients must not only turn their backs on the past hurts, but also close the door, lock it and throw again the key. Without a commitment to move forward, there is no hope.

Become a Relationship Coach Who Helps Create a New Relationship

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Once these basic relationship coach guidelines are in place, you set the stage to create goals that are so compelling that your clients are committed to take action. Your clients need to have a big vision in front of them will be pulled into the new future, otherwise the past will catch up with them and they will fall into old comfortable old habit and conversations.

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Colette Seymann
JTS Advisors Bi-Designated Strategy and Accountability Coach

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One of the greatest relationship coach mysteries is understanding what the other person wants.  The key is to help your clients realize what they want most is not necessarily what their partner wants.  Most relationship problems can be transformed by solving this mystery alone.

Where A Relationship Coach Is Needed Most

According to Helen Andelin, author of “Fascinating Womanhood,” women appreciate poise, talent and intellectual wit (www.FascinatingWomanhood.net).  They dress in a sophisticated manner and wear artistic make-up.   They spend $200 on a pair of shoes only their girlfriends will admire.  Many of these women completely miss the boat when it comes to what men really want.  They need a coach, not a girlfriend who will support them.

What Do Men Really Want?

Men have a different interpretation of what makes a woman beautiful.  My husband doesn’t care for make-up, and according to Andelin he is not a minority.  She says that men place more importance on smiles and a sparkle in a woman’s eyes.   Someone once told me, “There is nothing more beautiful than a woman who is happy.”  Is it because of a more girlish, sweetness of character; or is it simply because she is expressing her femininity?   If you want to experience femininity in its purest form, watch a little girl twirl in front of a mirror in a new dress.

Whether you agree with everything Helen has to say, she does make a good point.  How do you use this in as a relationship coach?  Encourage your clients to express their feminine side.  Have you ever asked your relationship coaching clients when the last time they wore a dress on a date with their husband was?  When your women clients are able to express their femininity, they allow their husbands/boyfriends to express their masculinity.  This is a sure fire way to rekindle some old sparks from the dying embers.

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Colette Seymann

JTS Advisors Bi-Designated Strategy and Accountability Coach

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