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Failure And The Success Coach

November 18, 2011 By Dana Bosley Leave a Comment

Failure and the success coach might sound like a contradiction but it’s not.

Are you one of the success coaches who is thriving? Don’t try to tell me that you haven’t had your fair share of failures. Your failure actually helped boost your success.

Failure The Key to Success

Failure is the key to success whether you are a success coach, any other coach, or even a client. The success coach gets to see this first-hand (not to mention, more often). Your specialty is success, so you know that without failure, you can’t have success. Failure and success go hand-in-hand.

Benefits of Failure That The Success Coach Will Point Out to You

  • Wisdom gained from failure. If you ask a simple question after every failure, “What can I learn from this mistake?” Those lessons then become the building blocks for the next success.
  • Better ideas come from failure. Research shows that innovations are often accompanied by a high rate of failure—look at Edison.
  • Failure motivates: You don’t usually change when you are comfortable and all is going well. You change when you feel the discomfort. Sometimes we need a little pain to get us to change and push us in a new direction. Sometimes it takes failure to make us do what we were meant to do.
  • Failure helps personal development. Failure is good for self-growth, personal development and cultivates character. There’s nothing quite like it to even the playing field. It’s a must have if you want to relate and have good rapport with clients.

Words of Wisdom on Failure From The Success Coach

  • The truth is, you usually never learn from success because you are glorying in your success instead of taking the time to analyze why you succeeded.
  • On the other hand mistakes are a learning process. You figure out what doesn’t work. If you are making the most of each failure you’ll figure out what does work.
  • Moral of the story is in order to reach your full potential, and even go beyond what you personally thought possible, you must have some failure.
  • The bad news is failure does not automatically give us the benefits of wisdom, new ideas, motivation, personal growth, or any of the other good things it does. Failure only brings forth the success if you milk it for all it’s worth.

The success coach will also tell you that if you’re wise you’ll use your failures to your advantage. Wise people make the most of failure. It’s a stepping-stone to greater success.

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Dana Bosley
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3 Saboteurs To Overcome As A Life Success Coach

January 19, 2011 By Jeffrey T. Sooey Leave a Comment

Stay aware of the saboteurs in your Life Success Coach career | Image by osciateAs a life success coach, you take your client through a series of steps on the way to reaching his goals. No matter what your particular process is, most likely you work with your client to develop a strategy and action steps. Then, of course, your client has to take those steps in order to have the success he wants in his life or work. So why is it that so often he doesn’t take the actions? What gets in his way?

Sabotage From The Outside

Every one of us faces all kinds of external saboteurs. It’s very easy to get thwarted by the normal time and energy consuming distractions of our modern age, and being a life success coach doesn’t exempt you from the sabotage. It probably does, however, mean you have developed the tools your clients also need. There’s a long list of external saboteurs–telephone calls, email, the net, the barking dog next door. Share your successful techniques with your client and work together to find the best strategies for him.

Internal Saboteurs Can’t Hide From a Life Success Coach

Your client’s internal saboteurs are his limiting beliefs. As your client’s coach, you are responsible for seeing his limiting beliefs when he can’t, and for helping him to see how they affect his behavior. By just identifying the limiting beliefs, you begin the process of changing them and taking away their power. Internal saboteurs are like an onion, though. Don’t make the mistake some life success coaches do, of thinking that all your client’s limiting beliefs have been handled and wondering why nothing in his behavior seems to have changed. There is always a deeper layer.

Intimate Saboteurs Can be The Toughest to Handle

Sabotage can also come from people who are closest to your client. For instance, someone with a weight loss goal may be sabotaged by her partner who wants pizza for dinner instead of baked chicken, or comes home with ice cream to share over a movie on TV. Consciously or unconsciously, that’s sabotage. As a life success coach working with that client, you will need to help her address this particularly tricky kind of saboteur.

Sabotage is an issue for all of us, coaches and clients alike. Stay aware of it. Handle it in yourself and coach your clients on how to handle it to achieve the goals they want.

Give this strategy a try and see for yourself that it works. If you liked this coaching tip, leave a comment or use the handy bookmark buttons below to share it with others on Facebook, Twitter, Digg, etc. Thanks!

Dorine G. Kramer
JTS Advisors Strategy and Accountability Coach

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Success Coaching Secrets: What a Life Success Coach Really Needs to Know

April 27, 2010 By Jeffrey T. Sooey 1 Comment

There really aren’t many success coaching secrets.  Most life success coaches have heard them all before.  But how many life success coaches act on them?  The greatest success coaching secret is to do what you can, and get help with what you can’t.  Is it really that simple?  Don’t we have to break through to the other side?

Success Coaching Secret #1: Focus on a Single Task

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According to the success coaching experts, our ability to focus on a single task is the greatest predictor of success.  If we are focusing on what we can do, we will be successful.  If we are focusing on what we can’t do, we will be paralyzed.  And as life success coaches, we understand this intellectually.

Success Coaching Secret #2: Ask for Help When You Need it Before You Dive in

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Unfortunately most life success coaches don’t do this.  They ‘rise to the challenge’ and try to figure out all the answers on their own.  How many life success coaches do you know who don’t even hire someone for their own success coaching?  What is with this Lone Ranger mentality?  Even he had a sidekick.

Success Coaching Secret #3: Take Action

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What happens instead is most life success coaches fail to take the action that they could do.  They stay busy learning the latest new theories and applications, instead of taking the action they need to action find success coaching clients.  How long do you need to work on your website, your collateral materials, or train before you start running some free coaching sessions and enrolling clients?  And although you could spend months trying to get to your limiting beliefs, I guarantee you they will come out on their own if you just start moving forward.

Whatever you know how to do as a life success coach, do it.  Ask for help for what you don’t know how to do.  Hire, bribe or barter with someone to help you.  Sure you’ll loose some certainty, some control, or even significance.  When you can do it for yourself, you can lead your success coaching clients as well.

Colette Seymann

JTS Advisors Bi-Designated Strategy and Accountability Coach

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Success Coaching During the Olympics: The Ultimate Life Success Coach Story

February 28, 2010 By Jeffrey T. Sooey 1 Comment

The Olympics is the most viewed program, not just in the success coaching arena; across the boards.  If there were ever examples of why we all need a life success coach, the Olympics is the ultimate example.  Not a single athlete who gets close to going to the Olympics does so without their own version of a life success coach.  There are a lot of similarities between success coaching and Olympic ice dancing coaching, for example.

An Empowering Peer Group Can Make All the Difference in Your Success Coaching

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Let’s take the gold and silver medallists for the paired ice dancing competition as an example of success coaching principles used in figure skating.  They’re peers and rivals, even training on the same ice between competitions.  If they had a life success coach, he would have encouraged this relationship as part of their empowering peer group.  And it worked well for both teams during the Olympics, because both teams achieved their personal best scores during the event.  Seeing each other perform well drove them to play full out.

As a Life Success Coach it is Imperative to Impart the Importance Being a Good Example

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I used this example with my youngest success coaching client; my eight year old daughter.  And while she doesn’t pay me to be her life success coach, at times she does appreciate me.  For example, she and some other kids were playing a game of keep-away at school when someone’s feelings got hurt.  We wrote out a script and she called the kid to apologize for her part.  She was the only one who called out of about 8-10 kids who were involved.  She was the hero the next day among her peers.  Her actions encouraged the others to consider doing the same.  They all apologized and he was able to accept their apologizes.

Helping Your Clients Find an Empowering Peer Group Will Help Your Clients Achieve Their Goals and Make Your Success Coaching More Lucrative

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What does this have to do with success coaching?  Most life success coaches don’t realize the benefits that an empowering peer group can have in helping their success coaching clients reach their goals.  Seeing others succeed is so powerful that it can encourage the most reluctant client.  Life success coaches need to find ways to foster relationships between their peers; whether it’s within the context of group coaching, a chat room for their clients or becoming part of a mastermind group.

Regardless, if it’s in competition or cooperation, you can improve your success coaching results by encouraging your clients to tap into their peer groups.  Sometimes you might find as a life success coach that there are relationships that your clients need to distance themselves from.  If that’s the case, you’ll want to make sure your clients replace that time with time spent with people who are sculpting their own destinies.

Colette Seymann

JTS Advisors Bi-Designated Strategy and Accountability Coach

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